About being a girl and how to be more girlish

[Sierrathebabykitty]

I am not a female by birth as my introduction had mentioned and I can’t afford a trans sexual surgery or even HRT. But I am asking even though I can’t transition in rl due to disability and the fact it would cost way to much for me to afford the surgery and HRT can I see be able to call my self a girl and female and still call my self she/her and trans? Also how can I be more girlish without the surgery and HRT? Can I be able to least work on my voice to sound more girlish? If so how can I work on my voice to make it more girlish?

[RachelLeigh]

There are some videos about working on your voice, I looked a few of those but it takes time.

I gave up worrying about my voice when out and about as I just soften my tone when I need to talk.

I don’t use hormones either so I just work on making my makeup look good and of course wigs are a great help in my look too.

When not fully en fem I just dress more fluid in female clothes and wear makeup too

[SissyJenny2]

Hello,

Your question is a very poignant one in that what is inside us might not be represented by our bodies.

Do we have the right to consider ourselves female?

Legally probably not but in deed and action that is your right to be who you want to be.

The whole nine yards of gender reassignment surgery with hormone therapy is a very big decision and as you say, very costly.

I’m a bit mature in age and therefore the value of transition is limited in my view for me.

Someone who is much younger would view the world differently.

If you are saying that your health issues permanently prevent your choice to pursue your dream in full, then you have the same quandary as myself.

I accepted sometime ago I was born as a male and have had to live that way but that does not prevent me from dressing, feeling very feminine perhaps more so than my female partner.

She is supportive, advises me and helps me to learn more.

I consider myself straight but do have bi thoughts when I dress. I’ve never acted on these but there are secret fantasies known only to me.

Transgender in my view exists on a spectrum and it is very individual to us all where see ourselves. I think this is your challenge to decide the level that will bring you peace and satisfaction.

How can you be more girly?

My advice, dress well not slutty, observe real ladies, just everyday people, learn their stance, mannerisms, expressions, how they smile, how they walk, sit, enter a vehicle, keep their legs together, cross their ankles as they sit, where they place their hands.

Pay particular notice to their hair, accessories they use, their makeup, jewellery, shoe and bag matches, hosiery, colours and how they greet friends.

Your journey to learn is huge but worth it and when you feel you’re ready to practice, ask a friend you trust to watch you and give honest feedback. And, yes that means the bad stuff too.

I personally love learning and I’m much, much better than I was at being a girl.

Probably better than I ever was as a man.

Jenny x

[RachelLeigh]

@SissyJenny2

Hello,

Your question is a very poignant one in that what is inside us might not be represented by our bodies.

Do we have the right to consider ourselves female?

Legally probably not but in deed and action that is your right to be who you want to be.

The whole nine yards of gender reassignment surgery with hormone therapy is a very big decision and as you say, very costly.

I’m a bit mature in age and therefore the value of transition is limited in my view for me.

Someone who is much younger would view the world differently.

If you are saying that your health issues permanently prevent your choice to pursue your dream in full, then you have the same quandary as myself.

I accepted sometime ago I was born as a male and have had to live that way but that does not prevent me from dressing, feeling very feminine perhaps more so than my female partner.

She is supportive, advises me and helps me to learn more.

I consider myself straight but do have bi thoughts when I dress. I’ve never acted on these but there are secret fantasies known only to me.

Transgender in my view exists on a spectrum and it is very individual to us all where see ourselves. I think this is your challenge to decide the level that will bring you peace and satisfaction.

How can you be more girly?

My advice, dress well not slutty, observe real ladies, just everyday people, learn their stance, mannerisms, expressions, how they smile, how they walk, sit, enter a vehicle, keep their legs together, cross their ankles as they sit, where they place their hands.

Pay particular notice to their hair, accessories they use, their makeup, jewellery, shoe and bag matches, hosiery, colours and how they greet friends.

Your journey to learn is huge but worth it and when you feel you’re ready to practice, ask a friend you trust to watch you and give honest feedback. And, yes that means the bad stuff too.

I personally love learning and I’m much, much better than I was at being a girl.

Probably better than I ever was as a man.

Jenny x

Good advice

[Sierrathebabykitty]

@SissyJenny2

Hello,

Your question is a very poignant one in that what is inside us might not be represented by our bodies.

Do we have the right to consider ourselves female?

Legally probably not but in deed and action that is your right to be who you want to be.

The whole nine yards of gender reassignment surgery with hormone therapy is a very big decision and as you say, very costly.

I’m a bit mature in age and therefore the value of transition is limited in my view for me.

Someone who is much younger would view the world differently.

If you are saying that your health issues permanently prevent your choice to pursue your dream in full, then you have the same quandary as myself.

I accepted sometime ago I was born as a male and have had to live that way but that does not prevent me from dressing, feeling very feminine perhaps more so than my female partner.

She is supportive, advises me and helps me to learn more.

I consider myself straight but do have bi thoughts when I dress. I’ve never acted on these but there are secret fantasies known only to me.

Transgender in my view exists on a spectrum and it is very individual to us all where see ourselves. I think this is your challenge to decide the level that will bring you peace and satisfaction.

How can you be more girly?

My advice, dress well not slutty, observe real ladies, just everyday people, learn their stance, mannerisms, expressions, how they smile, how they walk, sit, enter a vehicle, keep their legs together, cross their ankles as they sit, where they place their hands.

Pay particular notice to their hair, accessories they use, their makeup, jewellery, shoe and bag matches, hosiery, colours and how they greet friends.

Your journey to learn is huge but worth it and when you feel you’re ready to practice, ask a friend you trust to watch you and give honest feedback. And, yes that means the bad stuff too.

I personally love learning and I’m much, much better than I was at being a girl.

Probably better than I ever was as a man.

Jenny x

Thank you for the advice Jenny ^^. This girl will keep those in mind. I don’t care what other think of me. I just have to believe in my self and trust those like you who go through the same emotions. So again thank you kindly for the advice ^^

[LadyOfTintagel]

You absolutely can! Nothing wrong with calling yourself a girl if that’s what you want.

As for your voice, I really enjoyed transvoicelessons’ videos on youtube. She knows all about the science of how voices work and how people perceive the differences between “male” and “female” voices so they’re very insightful.

[Sierrathebabykitty]

Oh. I will check her out then and thank you for the kind response. I will have to give her a watch. I can’t practice right now though since my disability can’t handle the heat and if I try doing voice stuff while it summer I will get sick. So I will use her videos once fall comes. Again thank you kindly for the response and the advice ^^

[PerfectlyMe]

If I may add a small thought to this conversation. Changing one’s voice and tone is similar to learning a foreign alphabet and language. (Same part of the brain I believe).

So I suggest you regularly put aside some time to listen to those videos with headphones. I also think that it might help you feel more comfortable being consistently exposed to feminine presentations. But that is obviously only my opinion.

[Sierrathebabykitty]

@PerfectlyMe

If I may add a small thought to this conversation. Changing one’s voice and tone is similar to learning a foreign alphabet and language. (Same part of the brain I believe).

So I suggest you regularly put aside some time to listen to those videos with headphones. I also think that it might help you feel more comfortable being consistently exposed to feminine presentations. But that is obviously only my opinion.

Thank you for the advice ^^