I’ll still new here as far as posting so I hope that this comes out right.
I have a slight internal battle going on. For almost all of my life I’ve seen myself as strictly a DL and nothing more. I’m in a relationship with my SO who says she is okay with me being into diapers but here recently I’ve found myself being more drawn to the ab side of things and I’m not sure how to handle this. My SO was the first to bring it up after having some fun in diapers. Since then it has been an internal conflict that I’m having trouble addressing so I’m hoping to get some advice on how to deal with this and accept it or to hear if anyone else went through this internal conflict.
The only way to know if you have an interest in the AB side of ABDL is to try aspects of it out. Which parts are you drawn to? The clothes and accessories? The being cared for? The ability to play carefree? Identify that, and start small.
I had a slightly similar situation where I enjoyed wearing/using diapers for fun for a while, and considered myself a DL. Over time, I became more and more curious to other aspects of things, and potentially exploring my little side. In the end, I would say just go with what you’re comfortable with. I bought a few onsies, and a paci, then eventually a coloring book, some stuffed animals, a bottle, and now I fully enjoy having a little side!
Just go with the flow, so to speak. If you’re curious, try it out! Worst case you find out it isn’t for you, and you learned from the experience
I’m starting to get more into the role play and the clothing. It’s just a new feeling that I have never had and am trying to come to terms with it. Also with my SO, she is accepting of diapers and she says she supports me but I’m trying to find a way to talk to her about there’s new feelings.
New feelings can be scary at times, especially when it comes talking to an SO about it. I’d suggest try exploring the feelings when you feel safe, by yourself so you can see how you feel about it. If it’s something you really want to pursue with an SO, try having a conversation with her about it. It’s never easy to talk to others about it, especially when it’s something you yourself are unsure about, but trying to have a serious, honest conversation can save a lot of hurt and pain in the long run.
I am in a lot of the same boat as you. Pretty much exactly what Friendod8 is what I have been doing. It is all new to me and the SO so we are both having to go our own pace. But we are talking about it instead of trying to hide it. It has made a huge difference having open communication about it.
^^^^ This is so very important! I don’t fit the “traditional” (i guess as traditional as one can get with an ABDL lifestyle haha) look/type of a little. I’m a tall, hairy, bearded guy. I have no desire to shave my hair to appear more little, and am perfectly fine being little in my own ways. I even have an online Daddy who’s perfectly happy with the way I look, and is more focused on how I feel than with how I look.
Do what makes you happy and what feels comfortable!
I just wanted to give an update. I appreciate everyone’s advice and words of encouragement. My girlfriend and I talked about all of our feelings and what would be the best way to go about understanding this change. We both decided to take it a little at a time. So today I’m proud to say we went to the diaper Depot in Atlanta ( which I highly recommend and go to often as it seemed the lady just got a bigger smile the happier I got and the more into little space I got) and I got my first onesie ( which is an abu one) as well as some cute printed diapers. It definitely feels different but in a good way and I’m starting to feel more comfortable about it.
As far as my girlfriend goes with it, she brought up some good points on the fact that she’ll support me and wants to roleplay but due to her physical limitations of her being an actual little person and I’m a grown man there are some things we can’t do but we are going to explore to see what our limits are. Again I can’t thank this community enough for the support in actually taking the first steps.
