Thinking about telling a parent...

Adult Diapers
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So, I want some opinion on if I should let my mom know about the fact that I enjoy wearing diapers. I’ve been tossing between the idea so I’ll give you all some context and I’d appreciate any feedback which can help me decide.

So basically, she knows that I wear, or more so, that I wore. She doesn’t think that I still do. I was around 14-15 when I told her that I wet the bed and had been using goodnites, when in reality, I just had them cause I enjoyed to wear them. I’m not incontinent. I only did this because I was an idiot teenager and had wet diapers hidden in the cupboard, which reeked out the place, mom got suspicious and I couldn’t tell her why I had diapers otherwise. So she helped me get some and I felt more relaxed knowing I could wear, and didn’t mind leaving a wet diaper in the trash can in my room cause I knew it didn’t matter if she saw them. She stressed the fact that there was something medically wrong and if I kept needing diapers I’d have to go to the doctor. That put me in a purge state and I pretended like I didn’t need them anymore, and only used them sneakily a lot less when no one was home.

Fast forward to now, I’m eighteen, still living at home. I mean, I’d probably be moving out in the next couple of years but I still feel I’m repressing my love of diapers and think it would be so easy to just stay in them and get back into the old routine. It was only a few years back that my mom knew I wore diapers, maybe she even did know I liked them and I was just bullshitting the whole time. I’m not quite sure.

This whole pandemic has gotten me stressed out and less able to diaper up with people around, it would feel a lot better to regress. The point being, is it a bad idea to bring this up with my mother? It’s not really kink related for me, even so, I wouldn’t stress on that aspect, so is it such a wrong thing to bring up with a parent?

The thing is, we have routine at my place and It’s very hard to sneak around. I’m 18 and I help around the house heaps with chores cleaning cooking, but once a week it’s my mom’s job to empty trash around the house, that’s just how it is. I would look suspicious if I asked to do it myself, so it’s out of the picture. With her knowing I wear, because I enjoy being ‘little’, it wouldn’t matter and I could be myself.

What do you think Reddit? Is this all far fetched? I have no expectation on my mom to indulge in this, being to pay, or help out or anything of the sort. It’s something I’m reserved about and would do purely alone, it’s just it seems easier to tell her in this case, given the history with diapers as well. I’m not sure how it would go down. Any advice is helpful, thankyou so much for reading. Please tell me what you think.

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Normally I suggest against letting parents find out, but your case is a little different. You are an adult living with parents and free to make your own choices concerning medical advice. I would suggest the following: gather some information explaining your desire from a reputable source, preferably a psychologist. Save and preferably print the information. It should be short but informative. Go about your diaper use as usual, but perhaps wrap used diapers in old grocery bags before putting in trash. If your mother finds out, give her the information and some time to think it over. Being that she knows you used them before, I really don’t think you have much to worry about.

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Don’t do it unless there is a VERY GOOD long-term reason .

This forum is filled with stories of folks who told friends, lovers, and/or parents … it almost always turns out badly.

IRL I know someone who was kicked out of his home after telling his parents .

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My parents found out when they found my diaper stash when I was at work. Long story but I told my mom about it the next day and told her I like to wear diapers. Now I don’t worry as much when I order diapers online because if she finds out I ordered diapers she doesn’t care and just simply ignores it or rolls her eyes.

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Please don’t. You may find yourself having to leave your parents’ house sooner than you would want to.

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My mom caught me when I was about 10 or 11 and needless to say, it was not good. Lots of threatening, telling me that I’m abnormal, threats about seeing a psychiatrist and so on. So many people have this fantasy that their parents will come to accept it, when in reality most of the parents wonder where they went wrong as a parent.

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Why?

There are somethings that you do not need to share with your parents.

This is one of those things that is better to keep for yourself.

My mother found my stash when I was a kid, embarrasing!! But not a big thing.

As a father to two girls about your age, i feel that there is things about them I do not need to know.

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That’s what likely could happen again - doctor, therapist, psychiatrist or something, and/or alienation.

Most people don’t take other people’s weirdness lightly. It might go well, but you never know beforehand.

Better! That’s your chance of a lifetime.

I don’t think Reddit. I think ADISC!

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I wouldn’t tell if it were me, use that pent up feeling to keep you on track as a goal to get out of the house and either successfully buy or rent something. Take it a step further to get good grades in college so you can find a good job to live the lifestyle your envisioning.

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I think many factors come into play. You know your mother better than any of us do. How do you see her reacting to this? Also, what benefit do you gain in telling her?

For me I came very close to telling my mom a few years ago, primarily because I still lived at home at the time and sneaking diapers around the house without anyone knowing was really starting to wear on me. I could only wear at night in my bedroom and I had to strategically plan any sort of deliveries. Also, if there was anyone in my family that I’d feel comfortable enough to tell, it would be her. I feel like she wouldn’t freak out and would listen to my explanations. That being said, my dad is the complete opposite. He wouldn’t get it. I also knew if I told her, she’d tell him…and that was enough to stop me from telling her. Since then, I’ve moved out and can now wear in the comfort of my own place without having to sneak diapers around and only wear at night. Sure, I still hide them when they come over, but my reasoning to tell them no longer applies…plus at this point, I see no benefit in telling them. Neither of us gain anything from it.

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I don’t understand why people need to feel that they need to tell their parents or anyone in there family. That is something you should keep between yourself and significant other. It’s a kink/fetish ,after all would you tell your family you have a foot fetish or like being pegged if your were into that? No,so why bring it up unless they find your stash and ask.

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The only reason you would ever have to tell a Parent is if you truly needed them and had medical issues that would need more than just spilling the beans about the diapers. If it’s a fetish/kink best t keep it to yourself, the only reason you’d ever tell anyone unrelated to this is because you got caught and had to explain the reasoning behind you wearing what they saw you in.

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Or maybe a close friend that you got into a deep conversation about things and shared each other’s kinks.

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Wow, lots of replies that apparently didn’t read anything more than the title.

If you’re into being little and regressing and diapers themselves aren’t a kink thing for you, consider alternative regression triggers like pacifiers, plushies, or maybe even a onesie or cloth diaper that you don’t wet. Alternatively, disposing of non-wet diapers is a lot easier than wet ones since you can keep them around longer. It’s only for a couple more years, which is a pretty small amount of time in the long run.

The thing with telling people is that once the info is out there, you can’t take it back. Your mom might react well, she might react badly. Is it worth the risk of her reacting badly and things being awkward around family in order to make your fetish/kink/coping mechanism happen a few years sooner than it otherwise would? Only you can decide that. If it were me, my recommendation would be to not say anything, try and indulge in it in a limited and stealthy fashion but be ready to come clean if discovered. That’s what I did for 8 years while living at home and it worked out (I was never caught).

Routine makes it easier to sneak around. You know where everyone will be, what the expectations are, and what they’ll be doing so that you can plan around it. Some random ideas to get you thinking:

  • Plastic shopping bags are your friend. They’re more sanitary than just the diaper, keep the smell down, and help to obscure it visually.

  • Slip a wet diaper into a backpack, take a walk with said backpack, and dump it in an outdoor trashcan

  • Slip it inside something else like a fastfood bag, and throw it in the normal trash

  • Sneak it into the normal trash underneath something. Do it at 2am when everyone else is sleeping or whatever.

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First, I would vote strongly against telling.

Second, why can’t you discretely bag a used diaper and throw it in the trash without being noticed? It could be that you bag it and throw it in another trash can on your way to school/work or whatever.

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You don’t need to tell anyone unless you really want to, Sometimes I’ve had the same urge and turns out it was because of my own insecurities with being a DL. Plus I’ve dealt with a lot of issues related to it but I’m comfortable now knowing the only thing that makes me different is that I wear diapers daily. If someone probes into my life and finds out it’s not my problem. I’m happy and febreeze garbage bags make a great disposal method.