The urge to tell someone and the frustration of it all

[Pacilord123]

Recently I’ve had this massive urge to come clean about my paci usage but of course I’m terrified of the consequences

I guess a part of me wished this was accepted more by society, adult pacifiers hold a lot of health benefits for adults yet theyre just just looked down upon by most people outside this lifestyle

I do dream of the day you can just walk into a pharmacy and buy adult pacis,or use them in public without any odd looks, or that physical versions of our favourite abdl stores started to appear…but of course for obvious reasons I can never see it happening

[littlejunioruk1982]

why don’t you use your adult pacifiers in public especially you can use them under your facemask if you wear one going out and people won’t notice

[Pacilord123]

@littlejunioruk1982

why don’t you use your adult pacifiers in public especially you can use them under your facemask if you wear one going out and people won’t notice

I’ve thought about it and I am considering it once I muster up the courage

[Katie2fingers]

I’ve talked to a lot of people about being an adult baby and the most common response is who cares what other people think. Well, I do, I don’t want anyone to feel uncomfortable, or to be looked at as being different. I prefer children’s pacifiers, so it’s even stranger then adult pacifiers. I do hope in 50-60 years adults can have pacifiers in public., and not be looked at as freaks,.

[Pacilord123]

@Katie2fingers

I’ve talked to a lot of people about being an adult baby and the most common response is who cares what other people think. Well, I do, I don’t want anyone to feel uncomfortable, or to be looked at as being different. I prefer children’s pacifiers, so it’s even stranger then adult pacifiers. I do hope in 50-60 years adults can have pacifiers in public., and not be looked at as freaks,.

Exactly! Its ok to tell someone but you don’t wanna have to do that with fear of being judged

[Katie2fingers]

@Pacilord123

Exactly! Its ok to tell someone but you don’t wanna have to do that with fear of being judged

Right, I was judged growing up, not for being an ab, but other things. I DON’T want that again, or to be looked as being retarded with my cerebral palsy. It sucks and it’s not fair that I can’t be a little girl that I really want to be, but stuff happens. Maybe someday.

[CookieMonstah]

@littlejunioruk1982

why don’t you use your adult pacifiers in public especially you can use them under your facemask if you wear one going out and people won’t notice

What happens when he may have to talk to someone he knows or his mask maybe falls off or he has to remove it for some reason? I guess in the middle of nowhere would be fine.

[Leilana]

@Pacilord123

I’ve thought about it and I am considering it once I muster up the courage

I feel you.

As to comming out about the paci… I had a few people in my life that I did tell this to. In a very specific way of course. It was always after they told me something embarrassing about themselves. Then I’d tell them that it’s ok, bc I also have a very embarrassing secret. I would tell them about how we once bought a paci with a friend as a joke… And I still have that paci… And sometimes, when I watch something scary, I’d actually… use it.

This of course is not the whole truth, but I never got judged too badly and it still felt beatiful to be able to tell someone even this “version” of truth.

Of course it’s easier for me to come out with stuff like this bc I’m a girl… I know, it’s incredibly unfair and I hope one day the world will realize that even men can be vulnerable and feel “weak”. And trust me, if a man told ME that he used a paci, I wouldn’t judge, I would give them a big hug and tell them that it’s ok and very very cute… But of course the rest of the world sees this differently.

[Paddy2020]

@Leilana

I feel you.
As to comming out about the paci… I had a few people in my life that I did tell this to. In a very specific way of course. It was always after they told me something embarrassing about themselves. Then I’d tell them that it’s ok, bc I also have a very embarrassing secret. I would tell them about how we once bought a paci with a friend as a joke… And I still have that paci… And sometimes, when I watch something scary, I’d actually… use it.
This of course is not the whole truth, but I never got judged too badly and it still felt beatiful to be able to tell someone even this “version” of truth.
Of course it’s easier for me to come out with stuff like this bc I’m a girl… I know, it’s incredibly unfair and I hope one day the world will realize that even men can be vulnerable and feel “weak”. And trust me, if a man told ME that he used a paci, I wouldn’t judge, I would give them a big hug and tell them that it’s ok and very very cute… But of course the rest of the world sees this differently.

I use a paci on occasion and I’m a 56 year old guy. I use it in the privacy of my home and keep it in the bedside drawer. It gives me a little comfort on those madhouse days when I come home from work. I used to know a man years ago who was a high powered executive and married to a lovely lady for years who sucked his thumb. I have a very open mind to guys who do those things and do baby things, and I’ve seen quite a few in my life who need that. I have an open mind and heart for anyone who needs to do those things.