So many folks who are not adult babies or diaper lovers often have a stigma against them. A lot of them have a negative view, assuming the worst things that don’t necessarily make sense. Someone shouldn’t have to gone through severe trauma for another person to see their interests in abdl stuff as “acceptable”. It drives me nuts.
Sorry, this is more like a mini rant than anything.
Rant Away - Though such people aren’t really worth your time. There are many bigots, many people of small brain and big mouths who can only express themselves with windy rhetoric. They are not worth your time. Be happy. That is the best way to show how dumb they are. Do not recognise any right of theirs to express their miserable selves. They are merely chaff to be blown away.
I know you’re right it’s just hard sometimes, especially when it’s an unknowing friend.
Yes I know but even “friends” can let us down. Dismiss them and keep your real friends or pity them for their little intelligence and small brains.
But never be downcast by them. They simply aren’t worth it.
Well, if you agree, I’ll be your friend. I’m used to all sorts of prejudice and I’ve learnt not to let it bother me. Maybe your ‘friend’ is prejudiced as some people are short-sighted. They can’t help it. They seem to have been made that way.
There is so much unfair stigma against us. I have lost romantic partners and friends over it when I finally “confess”. But we shouldn’t have to “confess” like being ABDL or just wear diapers is some kind of crime. We should be able to live as we please, without harming others. It’s hard to not let it bother sometimes.. but just remember you are the only you there is, and the people who care about you and love you, will never judge you for who you are. And forget everyone else, their opinion isn’t important, they can stay judgemental and rude, it is their loss.
You sound as though you wait a while before you tell “romantic partners” which may be where you are going wrong. I agree that people may find a grown woman or man unsavoury if they wet their pants but if they were told right from the beginning you would avoid a lot of heartbreak.
When I use ‘confess’ I mean it in a general way It’s a bad replacement for tell and it was meant ironically. But prisilia speaks my thought better than I have.
I get that too. I was lucky enough that my wife has always been accepting of my abdl interests and through my admittance of it found she also enjoys it, but I have known partners that would have never been as gracious.
Yes, I would wait sometimes in the past, maybe too long, rather than being up front about it. But I always thought, “if they love me, they would not care if I’m into this.” Evidently that was not the case.. So I told my latest partner about all of it yesterday, we are fairly fresh in our relationship, and he is open to it and totally understands. I think it is generally better to say it from the start unless ABDL is not a huge part of someone’s life.. but it is a giant part of who I am and I learned my lesson on waiting to tell someone.
That’s great! My partner now is accepting of who I am since I told him, although, at this point in time not into the diaper aspect of it. Which is fine, since I’m IC anyways and it can get gross :ROFLMAO: but I am happy he’s understanding of this side of me. I wish more people were accepting of it rather than jumping ship once they find out. I’ve been ghosted by people a lot once I open up about it which sucks. They don’t want to hear anything about it because they have the preconceived notion in their head that ABDL is a bunch of disgusting freaks, p*dophiles. When it’s not like that at alL. I don’t get why society hates us so much and tells people we’re so “gross”. But those people aren’t worth the time anyways.
Compared to when I first discovered ABDL in the early 2000s, I find that people are starting to become somewhat more accepting of it, at least in the sense of “littlespace”. I’ve found quite a lot of people who openly embrace elements of non-diapered age regression; I was shocked that there are 2.2 million posts under the “littlespace” tag on Instagram (compared to about 600k for “ABDL”), and most of it are people showing off their stuffed animals or decorated pacifiers.
They may not be into the diaper side of it - I feel that will always be stigmatized because of the association with bodily functions - but I feel that’s a huge step forward in people understanding the aesthetic and therapeutic qualities of age regression. I kept my ABDL-ism a secret for over a decade before revealing it to a close friend, but in the last couple years, I’ve had several people come to know about it and they relate precisely because they come from an angle of understanding or even practicing age regression themselves. A few friends I’ve come out to aren’t even remotely ABDL and would never wear a diaper, but they had tons of stuffed animals and even pacifiers. It blows my mind that pacifiers seem to have a non-fetishy following with non-ABDL/DDLG people.
As mentioned, I think ABDL will always be stigmatized, but age regression is becoming more widely understood (and possibly even somewhat trendy), which I think will really, really help alleviate some of the more unfortunate myths attached to it (such as being pedophilic). Ideally, I think that maybe someday ABDL will reach the same level as the furry fandom, in the sense that though there will always be people mocking and slandering it, it won’t be looked at as shamefully as it once was. I do believe public perception is slowly but surely getting better rather than worse. We’ve come a very long way since seeing “adult baby syndrome” sensationally exploited on trashy shows like ‘Jerry Springer’.
Yes it probably will always have stigma attached - after all that time teaching control and then some people just ***revert! *** It’s not really ‘playing the game’ now Is it? 
I find, more and more, that the non-acceptance of husbands is due to them not not being upfront and honest about their interest before marriage.
It’s the* dishonesty* that really hurts. And as far as it goes I am on the Wife’s side when they’re kept in the dark before marriage and then told when the marriage has happened. I think it’s treacherous.
A TRUE friend that loves you uncondisanally WILL NEVER turn you away. If they do, THEY have the problem, not you.
Good Luck Katie
It varies by culture and demographics but wider society is still very bigoted. As some things become more socially accepted, even respected more light is available for people to identify another area where they can express their bigotry to minorities and marginalized/misunderstood communities.
While lesbian and gay people have faced some growth in acceptance and legal protections over recent years, trans people still face widespread abuse, assaults and discrimination… the bigotry remained they just found a more vulnerable and socially acceptable target for their hatred and prejudice. Bi people continue to face hostility and erasure both from within the LGBT community and heteronormative society. As sections of the BDSM community gets more mainstream exposure things like spanking and sub/dom relationships face a little less hostile rejections with some even talking openly about their relationships and experiences in the media and on sites such as YouTube, meanwhile more obscure sections such as pup play remain marginalized and ostracized. So while age regression may be gaining more representation on social media with people talking about it openly and understanding what it is and why people do it, that doesn’t necessarily mean that other sub-communities under an abdl/agere umbrella will receive the same understanding… society might be prepared to accept and empathize with young people who choose to use pacifiers and teddy bears as a means of comfort or as a part of actual age regression, but that’s a long way imo from society understanding and accepting adults, especially adult men who enjoy similar items and practices for comfort or pleasure.
I’m trans and transitioned 0ver 30 years ago and I never encountered any hostility and nobody knew I wasn’t a woman one I’d be transitioned.
I don’t know where this bigotry lives. I’ve*** truly ***never experienced it. Most people today don’t know I’m trans they accept me as the woman I know myself to be.
Then you have the fortune of being stealth and lucky that you haven’t experienced bigotry on the basis of your gender identity. LGBTQ people and trans people in particular are facing increasing levels of harassment and abuse. I’ve known some trans people who have been assaulted and who have had to endure prolonged verbal abuse and discrimination in employment.
If you mean by “Stealth” that I don’t talk about my past you’re right. But ‘stealth’ means something edgy and sneaky.
I’m neither. political, nor bound to my past. I’m accepted as I appear and never wanted it any other way. Why should I?
At my age I’ve learned to really enjoy all* that my life has given me! *I’ve given back what I can.