I know I have talked about the balance between Adulting and being Little before, but today has been a real struggle.
Yesterday Issac wen to his mothers for a while, don’t worry we are still good it just he has to go to work and that easier if he lives with his mother, we both hate it but it as to be done.
Today Sunday I planned to do Adulting housework and paperwork but I woke up and did my usual thing of getting breakfast then changing out of my night time diaper because it Sunday and it’s my weekend off I put a fresh diaper on. I then did some paperwork suckling on my pacifier and some laundry.
but as soon as I finished one keeping up to date with my house accounts I wanted to kids TV.
All-day Siysiy has been wanting to play and my Adult side has been wanting to get on with the housework.
It probably has not helped that I diapered up, had tea from a sippy cup, suckled on a pacifier and had Peter watch me do my accounts.
now I just woken up from an afternoon nap and had to have a change I think Little Siysiy is still up for playing.
So now I have to try and come to some compromise with my self.
If Siysiy helps me finish the laundry and helps with clean the kitchen then we will go and get some ice cream for after dinner.
All this is so much easier with a Big to help get the balance between being a Little on a Sunday Off and doing Adouting things.
How do you find the balance between your inner child and your adult side?
Honestly, as much as I want to think I know, I have no clue. I vacillate so often, that balance is still something I’m groping in the dark for.
I’ve been married twice and failed twice because I couldn’t find the balance. I have an adult side and don’t want to be little all the time, but I don’t have enough of it within the confines of marriage and all that comes with it. I need a mom, but I also want to keep my career and pay rent and so forth.
I mange (sort of) - but I am home all the time anyway (disabled), and so is my wife/mommy - that helps a lot!
Go to far outside the line, with no good reason, might get spanked good! - And no, unlike some, I do not find being spanked the slightest bit enjoyable - but I do find it plenty helpful, lots of times.
(And she does not fool around - nothing playful about it at all! Actually hurts quite a bit - but that’s fine - like I said - not funat all but definitely helpful!)
But unfortunately - specially by itself - has never really helped much in my case - can’t say none at all - but - it is a known fact - in my case, just the way things have been done, IS a lot faster, and even long-term helps more. - (not trying to styep on anyones toes - just being honest - I even notice myself, so not just others opinion - I notice it as well) I guess everyone is different though.
In fact, I could see in some people, not only would spanking like that not help, but actually cause more issues - like if there is any history of true physical abuse - now what I’m talking about is far from that! - But if it ever happened - I could see what works well for me - creating more problems on someone like that!
Katie is with me all the time, but only comes out when I’m in little space, but recently, she’s been coming out more. She LOVES to talk, what 2-year-old doesn’t? Whenever I’m alone, she talks, ME go potty, ME go doll, ME want mommy and such. She never talks around others except my best friend, she’s kind of her mommy. When I’m an adult, I am an adult, It’s very controllable.
Maybe you could use a sticker and reward chart. That way you can do adult things and earn stars so that Siysiy can have a treat later. It might help if there is something to work towards. My chart helps me. If you tell Issac he can tell you how many stars you get.
- And no, unlike some, I do not find being spanked the slightest bit enjoyable - but I do find it plenty helpful, lots of times.