So 2020 really sucks! I have been plodding along through this thing, but recently and very unexpectedly, I had to put my dog down. I am sadder then I have been in a long time. I’m getting over it now, but wow! Anyhow, I have noticed that I have defiantly been wearing more since that day. I never really thought of my diapers a coping mechanism, but I have defiantly been using them to cope with my grief over the puppy. Has anyone else noticed that when they are sad or depressed, their diaper use goes up. Maybe I’m just trying to regress, but it seems to really help.
Yeah I’ve turned to diapers a lot this year for comfort. Being an adult in 2020 has not been easy. I don’t know that wearing “cures” my mood, but it certianly can help add to a feeling being safe and cared for. And hey, if it helps, why not?
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An upsetting story that took place in 2009 that had to do with my dog, literally had me running out of my house (multiple family members here!) and ultimately spending a long Friday - Monday weekend at a nice hotel 60 miles from home, completely alone so I could I guess you’d say self-sooth for 4 days. Early morning cartoons, bottles, paci, a recently purchased custom minky baby blanket “adult size” and at the time an iPod with nursery tunes. That weekend saved me. The dog situation was bad for bad reasons, had to put her down, felt guilty, the little me just couldn’t handle it! I told family that I was taking off, needed peace and quiet. Still an amazing memory because little time, full immersion, little space in whatever way it happens doesnt replace a lost family member like a beloved dog but quiet time alone or simply wearing for awhile helps move the stress and pain to a safer place, a more peaceful place to cope.
I dont know you but very sorry about your dog, been there, done that, it’s never easy. Dogs provide unconditional love which is what a lot of us are already looking for and crave from a human. When their no longer there, it’s tough. So sorry.
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We have lost dogs in 2007, 2015, and 2018. We now have a 15 month old pup. There is nothing worse than losing your best friend - and I mean that in every sense of the word. Each of these dogs was truly my best friend. Please accept my sincere sympathy on your loss. The best way I’ve been able to cope with the lose was to get another dog. However, after we lost our dog in 2018 my wife didn’t want another dog as she hates losing them and the emotional turmoil she goes thru. I finally wore her down in September, 2019, when I convinced her we should adopt another puppy. Gus is my new best friend and we are almost inseparable.
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Hey Tyranover I totally agree! Also, I get sick of so-called ‘shrinks’ (qualified and quack’s) and also ‘religious’ people / preachers trying to ‘label’ adult diaper/nappy wearing as a mental health or ‘evil’ problem, suggesting we are somehow deficient. HOW DARE THEY! If you do something that makes you feel good, doesn’t hurt others, and does not hurt children or the vulnerable then how can that be bad? Personally I fear for people who over-exercise (I know as a medic of 35+ years this will wear out their joints and also their heart - Statistics now clearly show that most ardent Athelete’s / fitness guru’s die disproportionately young) but I won’t criticize anyone for doing that if it makes them feel good. Live and let live… If Diapers/Nappy wearing as an adult comforts you, GOOD ON YOU, you will probably live a longer and happier life.
I’ve already warned my psychologist that I might not be “all right” when I have to put my dog down. She’s 8 years old and doing well but I don’t know if I can continue living without her. The dog is my last connection to my wife as we picked her out together. I remember that day well. Anyway, at the moment, my dog is my life.
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As many know on here I’ve had a ruff time the past couple of months. I never have regressed before but recently with stress and covid I have been having a hard time. It is a comfort thing from 4 years on, it’s always been a issue when I get down or stressed.
Thanks for all the support, I really appreciate it.
Sorry for your loss, wiliawi… 
I just started wearing diapers after gradually moving towards ‘comfort’ clothing. For me it is all about being comfortable, and hence it makes perfect sense that you may be wearing more under the current circumstances. But it’s a good thing to be good to yourself whenever you need to!
Me and my wife were looking at a puppy today…
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I’m sorry for the loss. I’ve had a number of cats over the years and it is always a tough time when a family animal dies.
You have found a good way to help with those feelings.
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