Adult baby struggles to find work as employers don’t like him wearing nappies
Damien Turner, 28, from West Virginia, is part of the adult baby diaper community and says his lifestyle has caused problems in his professional life
I recommend staying away from the comment section of this news article. Other than that, it seams he’s trying to make his abdl side the prominent part of this life. At this time and age we unfortunately don’t have that luxury. Being professional and wearing appropriate attire at work is important. As for his employers finding his social media and firing him due to his outside-of-work lifestyle is a major thing that aggravates me. No person should ever be terminated because of their social media. What I do outside of work is none of works business. Unfortunately, we in the abdl community have to live 2 lives; one as ABDL’s and one as “normal” human beings (especially those of us that have children). Hopefully one day we can be accepted and won’t have to live 2 separate lives.
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I saw this posted in a machinist group i’m in. The group is full of fuckery so of course the article was being ridiculed heavily as it really should be. This guy is trying to impose his kink on people that don’t want anything to do with it. I don’t agree with this. He was wanting to walk around the work place with no pants, only a diaper. If he wants to be diapered at work thats one thing, but at least have the decency to keep it to himself. Or play it off like he needs them. He doesn’t have to admit it is a kink. It makes people uncomfortable and we should respect other people’s boundries.
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I haven’t actually tracked down primary sources, but it looks like it wasn’t an “outside of work” thing but instead his attempt to drag his ABDL lifestyle into the office openly and explicitly that caused the problem. Regardless of outside interests, at work you should remain professional in conduct and appearance. What constitutes “professional” is situational: a suit and tie is inappropriate for a machinist’s bay, likewise coveralls and a ballcap aren’t the right choice for arguing legal issues in front of a judge.
Regardless, the settings in which a visible diaper and childish behavior are acceptable are vanishingly few.
I think the best we’ll get is like BDSM - it happens, we know it happens, everyone politely ignores it until it has a direct impact on a professional level.
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One place your lifestyle should be hidden is ••••••••you guessed it work. You should leave being an adult baby home where it needs to be. I’m in ABDL but I don’t flaunt everywhere I go
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Agreed. I took one look at the comments section and was both shocked and unsurprised by what I read. Even as an ABDL, you should be balancing that out to maintain the lifestyle of a healthy, responsible adult. Carrying that to work and pushing it on your coworkers is not okay. You have to respect other people’s boundaries.
Nobody at work needs to know anyone’s personal business. I don’t understand why people need to advertise their personal business at work. I fully believe that the ABDL lifestyle will not be accepted by society. Why push one’s own fetishes on others? To me, this guy was asking to be fired.
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Yeah, that’s literally the demarcation point where “weird but otherwise healthy quirk” turns into “weird problem that needs to be addressed” according to pretty much any medical professional out there.
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Sigh…
We do not need this negative publicity.
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No, we definitely do not.
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Personally I don’t care what people do in their personal lives as long as it makes them happy and they’re not hurting anybody else. But that doesn’t mean that everyone else needs to be included that does not want to be. Work is one world we have to be in. Our personal lives is another world. The 2 worlds should never collide.
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As a caterer, if he was working with food that was going to be eaten by someone else, and was wearing a diaper with no pants on, I can see why he was fired. Like others have said though, he has a right to his own social media and what he does on his home time.
It bothers me that the article seems to say that those of us in the abdl community support him. I wouldn’t think that our community supports his flaunting of his diapers so openly.
His supportive parents will be supporting him for a very long time unless he grows up when he is in public.
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Sadly, the uptight people in HR don’t see it that way, often looking for reasons to not hire someone vs. the other way around. In reading several articles, I got the impression he gets fired for “acting childish”, not for exhibitionism, and any exhibitionism is on the streets of his neighborhood or town. Which doesn’t excuse either behavior. As many have stated, employers expect professionalism and neighbors don’t expect to encounter a man-child sans pants. But I also wonder if his geography plays a part? He was living in West Virginia (now maybe Virginia?), neither exactly hotbeds of liberal thinking. 10+ years ago, I remember a blog by an AB guy doing web design in NYC, who doubly untrained himself (to the extent one can), wore thick cloth diapers to work, and was out as AB to all his coworkers, and never seemed to have a problem. He also confessed to having some deep trauma in his past, for which AB and diapers were coping mechanisms. I’m afraid that Damian may need to either start seeing a psychologist (hard to do when you’re unemployed) or move to a very liberal city if he’s adamant about changing. I wish him success, but think something will need to give.
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I would disagree with you as a person who did hiring of employees at various times in my working years. Depending upon the employer, there are things an employee simply must do to present the company in the best possible light. I know things evolve and change; but, I can promise you in the 1980s anybody applying for work in any of the several banks I worked at would not be offered a job if they had a visible tattoo or piercing other than women with pierced ears. Nose ring, lip rings, etc. - no way. A bank was expected to project a professional image.
If a person works for a manufacturing company and gets on social media trashing that company’s product, they should be gone in a heartbeat.
From the article linked to in the first post: **Currently unemployed, he is constantly in and out of jobs and has been fired by previous employers for “being childish.” " Sometimes my employers find my pictures online or just can’t put up with the fact I’m wearing a diaper and acting childish in the workplace." **
The fact he says he is being childish in the workplace is likely the greater reason for his employment problems than wearing nappies. Maybe he should try behaving as an adult on the job and keeping his ABDL lifestyle a part of his off-work life. I don’t feel the slightest bit of sympathy for him. He has many choices and he’s apparently made his. We all live with the choices we make.
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Especially if your work is catering related! Just the appearance of a diaper without attempting to conceal it would be enough to put many of his patrons off their food. It seems reasonable that a business owner wouldn’t want to lose customers over an employee’s narcissistic decision to do want he likes irregardless of his customers feelings on the matter. I’m for staying padded but with respect to those around you, especially if you’re involved in serving them food.
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Just like on Seinfeld, when worlds collide, nothing good ever results from it.
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