Hi guys, I was hoping to get some feedback on the situation I’m currently in. I’ve been with my bf for over 5 years now. At first he acted like he was okay with the whole AB thing, so I took that and ran. it was diapers, naptimes, baths, feeding, the whole 9. Then I found out he wasn’t really enjoying it, he was just going along with it. This made me very depressed as all the tender moments I thought we shared were just fake. He later said because of the whole child aspect of it, he just can’t get over it. Ibguess he somehow associates it with pedophilia.. So I stopped asking him to do anything for a long time, but it ate me alive.
I even stopped wearing them for a brief period, 1 ruined mattress later and I’m back in them every night.(I do actually have severe enuresis) but I have to diaper and change myself I’m honestly fine even without the extras like bath times and feeding, just because he is naturally daddyish.. he even talks to me like I’m little, using a baby voice all the time, which I love. He also is very comforting, stroking me etc. He even calls cum cummies. He just doesn’t like the diapers…
Is there some way I can warm him up to them? I honestly feel like this is partly my fault for going off the deep end in the beginning.
If you are genuinely incontinent, he’ll have to get used to you wearing diapers or find someone else to share his life. The two of you should try to find some middle ground where he can feel a bit more comfortable. I think the pedophile excuse is a little lame in that when he looks at you, you certainly aren’t a little kid. It sounds like he wants to be with you in general, probably enjoys having sex, etc. but may be uncomfortable with the whole diaper wearing. But if you have severe enuresis, he’ll have to accept the diapers in order to accept you as his partner.
You two need to have a talk here. It sounds like wearing diapers is a must for you, that is going to require that the person in your life, be accepting. He needs to get aboard, with at the very least, the fact you wear diapers, or he needs to get out of the way to make room for someone who does.
That’s pretty much the dynamic already, I still do and will always wear diapers at night. But I approach it in the adult, medical sense. I don’t ask him to do any AB activities.
I just wish he would at least be involved in changing me. It would be so special to me. Even from a medical standpoint.
I’ve thought about things like offering to do something for him, like wash the dishes, sexual favors, etc in exchange for help putting my diaper on? But I’m scared to bring it up
ohhhh I thought he didn’t want any part of the entire thing!!
That is better than what most people get. You’re just hurt because he wasn’t honest with you.But he eventually was, he’s ok with diapers, not the AB. Saving the AB side for when he is not around, sounds like a good compromise.
Yeah sorry I’m terrible at putting things into words. It definitely hurts that he built my hopes of having an AB wonderland life. But like I said what he does now is enough. I basically just want to slowly warm him up to the idea of helping me with my diapers and don’t know how to do it.
Other than offering something in return like I mentioned.
On the flip side though, you do have a diapered wonderland life. Read the forums, there are many people who are with partners that won’t even put up with diapers.
I’m honestly fine even without the extras like bath times and feeding, just because he is naturally daddyish.. he even talks to me like I’m little, using a baby voice all the time, which I love. He also is very comforting, stroking me etc. He even calls cum cummies. He just doesn’t like the diapers…