I wonder if some of you with overactive bladder just sometimes give up and don’t go to the toilets while they still have a chance ?
I do sometimes when I’m in the office or with friends. To avoid to be the one who always go to the bathrooms. To hide that I have a weak bladder and that I’m not like the others.
As an exemple, in the office. I try to hold it and go to the toilets only evry 2 ou 3 hours. Meanwhile I stay seated, quite inconfortable, and leak in my pad . And go change juste before lunch break just as would the others. Of course sometimes I’m to miserable (pain or too wet) and allow me a mid time toilet break . But not everydays.
Just so you know, the bathroom is not at my floor and the more conveniant are located in plain view of the entire openspace. I have the feeling that the entire company can count how often I go.
I’m under the impression that young people with weak bladder are consider less of a person ? Do you feel the same ?
So do you go as often as needed and don’t care of what people think? Or sometimes give up to avoid the stigma ?
I never thought about , but I go to the bathroom all the time , I even say when I call again to stay with my students yes I am going to the bathroom again, but nobody never complain only my family but they complain about everything, but I am scared of pad to leak more than can hold , but i Always keep a chance of clothes in my locker in case I don’t make
That constant feeling of having to pee, even when your bladder is almost completely enjoy, is horrible!
To answer the question, there are times that I’ll wet my diaper rather than run to the bathroom yet again. Mostly it’s when the pain had been going on for days, and I’m tired of the constant disruptions. It’s not very often for me, but it does happen.
What’s more common for me is that I’m in the middle of something and just forcibly ignore the sense of needing to pee until it suddenly become overwhelming and I can’t hold it any longer. It’s taken a long time to accept that those are real accidents, not me being lazy and wetting myself just because I can.
I don’t feel like people (whether you or old) with bladder problems are considered less of a person, but I’ve endured plenty of cutting comments over my life about needing to use the restroom more often than others. It can be painful, and some people can be insensitive close and not realize how much their words hurt, but it has never gotten to the point that I’ve felt like they don’t value me as a person.
Thanks for this reply. Maybe it’s only in my head. And I should not feel inferior.
As for not feeling lazy, I don’t either. But I also was when younger. Not anymore. Maybe since I don’t have to report to anyone how well the day was in term of accidents.
But I still hate the consequences of leaking in the protections. Only delays the moment when you go to the bathroom. And you often can’t change right away. When you can, you must sneak a new protection, dispose of the old one. Sometimes I must forgo with the wipes. Why are the packages always so noisy and big? Sneacking a new protection is already not so easy… without the huge pack of noisy and sometimes irritating for the skin wipes.
I’m 22 and I’ve had OAB ever since I was born, I constantly wet myself (sometimes messed) and kept having infections, I didn’t have diapers except for a short while, drynites for bed. My parents thought I was being lazy and told me not to use my drynites as a nappy but I always ended up going in it, some of the time I could hold my pee in but more often than not I was dying for a wee and ended up wetting the bed the moment I woke up anyway. I was constantly sitting on my heels in order to hold it in and I had to keep drying my pants on the radiator (I must of stunk!).
I was taken to a peditricion for tests and put on medication (I don’t know if It was fr my bladder or just an infection I had but I took them everyday for a number of years) my parents shouted at me for wetting myself, I was made to wash my panties outside once for wetting myself and also made to sit outside to eat my dinner because I wet myself and my mum made me wear a drynite to go to the supermarket in (proberly to embarass me with) and once threatened to tell everybody at school that I needed to wear nappies.
My friend once mentioned that once or twice I kept having to use the toilet a lot. I’ve forgiven my parents for how they reacted since I don’t want to hold onto hurts.
I’ve always managed my days through timed voiding and later on with pull ups just in case. I didn’t often have times where I couldn’t make it to the restroom. My frequent restroom visits weren’t really brought up. Probably because I was always in and out and I was a manager.
I’m a little ashamed to say that I mostly don’t try to hold it anymore. Even though I managed it for years. It’s not out of laziness or trying to avoid people noticing excessive trips to the restroom.
At the end of 2018 I hit a very rough patch of depression (I’m bipolar) that put me out of work for almost half a year on medical leave. During that time I pretty much stopped caring about everything, including how I managed OAB during the day. I had no desire to get out of bed, shower, eat, or really anything. If I felt an urge I just started letting it happen. I really stopped taking care of myself on a lot of fronts.
The good news is I’m in a better place mentally now. Back in the workforce.
Honestly, I still have the same mentality that I did … I’m in a diaper what do I care. It probably won’t change.
I never thought that the diaper could be a type of I am not well enough to care so I am just lay here and if i have to pee I just do it does make sense at least for me because I am autistic also have OAB so many trips to the bathroom and when I am mental exhausted what happens a lot with us autistic I just put my diaper on and don’t get for anything besides getting a drink
The key to handling incontinence is to find a diaper that works for you, handles your expected discharge amount and is discreet. Most good diapers will fall into all those categories. Forget the notion that everyone will notice you are diapered. Most people don’t pay attention to that especially if your not wearing a skirts or tight jeans.
It is super fun with them I am myself a big child ( I think that is because my autism because it is natura I don’t decide that I will act like a child) so I play a lot because of the pandemic I have only a few students they are well behave of course sometimes they do things but all children misbehaved sometimes
There are various threads about how to be inconspicuous about getting a clean diaper into the bathroom so you can change. Northshore carries smaller packs of wipes - not quite pocket-sized, but think and easy to hide.
The key is finding something that works for you. Not changing isn’t a good option.
Normally I try to make it to the toilet as good as I can. If thinks going well I go round about every hour and if I’m lucky I stay dry for the day. How ever, there are phases especial in the last time where I need to go every 15 or twenty minutes and have a permanent feeling of urgency. It is frustrating, but in such cases I put on a diaper, take my pills and wait until it’s better again…
. And go change juste before lunch break just as would the others. Of course sometimes I’m to miserable (pain or too wet) and allow me a mid time toilet break 
. But not everydays.