Me and him started dating 10 months ago then he seemed very distant now he left me and knows that I go into littlespace I’m scared if he tells anyone he could and I already have a not good of a reputation for being weird and I’m trying to raise it but if he tells it will permanently go down I don’t have much friends but I live in a small town and almost everyone knows who I am What should I do!?
I honestly wouldn’t be worried as it seems hes trying to leave things off right instead of burning the relationship and starting a bunch of stuff hes trying the leave off as friends
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And I’m sorry hes breaking up with you especially over a text I’m here to talk if you want
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Pretty much. Outing something like being abdl in a small community will likely get him ostracised as well, as it is something highly personal.
Breaking up via text is also pretty scummy after being together for 10 months. Possibly something else going on there.
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If he does say something, just mentally own it. No one can take your true self away. I’ve date quite a few people over the years before finding my fiancée, 3 of the girls I dated new about my diapers and seen me openly wearing them, 2 had helped change me while we were together, its not that big of a deal, actually I think they would prob rather keep quiet themselves to avoid questions they might get asked.
That sucks, I kind of know your situation. I’ve been with my partner of 12 years now. At the brpeginnung we would fight. he found out one morning. I went to work had an Abena n4 in just git down the road to 7-11 to use the bathroom. I just made it to the front door and started uncontrollably filling my diaper with mush. I turned around hrprpeaded carefully bam to my truck still filling my pants. I tried to slide in so everything would go up front rather than up my back. Well it worked but I had boxer briefs over my diaper makin it’s bit tight and it came out the legs. I couldn’t go to work like that so I drove home.
im out I the yard just in my diaper hissing off the outside of it when my partner comes down to see what was going on. I told him I had an accident and I have to get to work. He said wh not come in and change but I said Ned to get to work so I put a pair of shorts over my loaded diaper and left. He never mentioned it.
I never thought I’d ever tell anyone this but I admitted I was incontinent but sometimes enjoyed messing my pants. He was cool about I was so relieved. Until we had a fight and he was going to rtell everyone I messed my diapers and said his 3 year old nephew doesn’t even do that anupymore. The real,y made me feel bad. He would use this against me all the time. He ha had a female friend from high school that was incredibly jealousof me. he ended up telling her. I found out when they were fighting in fac prbook and she calls me a diaper wearing faggot .
A few years later I totally ruptured both quadracepts tendons at the same time. So now in addition to my normal incintinence ( bithched back surgery i have died from) I couldn’t bend my leg to sit down in a toilet so I would go in the bathroom and either stand next to the toilet and mess my pants or diaper then empty my pants and shower. It was all I could do. One day he was in the bathroom so I was in my bedroom, usual,y w sleep tigryher but because if my injury it was easier to sleep in my room. Any way he opndps the door and say what the hell stinks in here (like he didn’t know. I got embarrassed pull the cover over my self. I told him I had to go and was waiting for him to get out of the bathroom. I’m still embarrassed to have him see me in a diaper let alone one that is full.
Sunce then he got colon cancer and he is now partly incontinent so he knows how embarrassing it is. Luckily for me it worked out. We keep it prI ate we don’t change each other but if I’m in the bathroom he’ll grab me a fresh diaper no questions asked And I do the same for him.
Sirry fir the story, I kind of neede to get that out there. What do you do for a living. Regardless of what happens maybe you need a change, ( no pun intended:blush:) it might be good for youto move so pmevwhere for a fresh start.
i moved a few times before I found my paradise Ft. Myer Beach, I was in the closet forever finally accepted I was gay, actually bi. But mostly gay. Evveyinevhss been so cool and I’ve changed a lot of peoples minds on stereo types. I’m not nit feminine at all hat anything frillynir prude flags or. Anything like that. I’m a former bouncer bodyguard and world class power lifter. When people are shocked I say look I’m like any other guy I just happened to fall in love love with a man. My little guy is a doll and everyone loves him too.
when I’m out with friends etc who don’t know I’m incintinent I usually will wear a large size pampers or pullup they petty much fit like briefs and are undetectable unless they are wet or loaded,
But I digress. Get your diapered butt out there get a fresh start there is too much too see and do don’t waste it! 
Awwwwe I’m sorry to hear, that must be sooo annoying and scary. I hope he isn’t jerk and stays nice, doen’t tell anyone.
He will be the asshole for outing you. You will have people on your side because of this.
But if it comes down to defending your choices, what you do privately doesn’t harm anyone and it is none of their business. Some people drink alcohol to excess or smoke harmful substances. You go i to littlespace. I’d say you’re better adjusted than the people harming themselves and others.
If he outs you, he will be the one harming people.
My girlfriend of 3 years split with me at the start of COVID-19 lockdown. She also knows but was always supportive as you will see from my threads… she won’t tell anyone. I wouldn’t worry
What ever happened to “can We talk?” Text on an electronic device is not an appropriate method of dealing with a relationship. Doesn’t matter if it’s your other half or your countries leaders. It’s not a new generation thing, it’s wrong.
hopefully he will keep his mouth shut, if he doesn’t you can always tell his friends how tiny he is.
I’m sorry for the painful breakup. I agree with others here that he probably won’t tell others. It would probably make him uncomfortable talking about it. Of course, be nice to him if you can so he won’t want to hurt you in retaliation.