Is it possible to have a mommy or a daddy without being something sexual?? I don’t know if I would have the guts anyway, but sometimes I wish someone would make me a bottle, tuck me to bed , give my pacifier, but like a real mom and dad don’t expect something in return besides my gratitude, I don’t know if it makes sense
I have 2 “children” I take care of 24 / 7 .
It’s not a sexual relationship … the “7 year old” is physically and mentally challenged IRL and he requires assistance … the “2 year old” I baby because it makes him happy.
Do you live with them?
I’m a full time live-in caregiver .
Got it thanks for the feedback
I believe anything is possible and there is someone out there for everyone. That being said I believe it is more likely to be in a relationship with someone and then have nonsexual abdl time with them, keeping it as a seperate part of the relationship.
My oppinion only and when I say more likely I am not saying having a nonsexual mommy or daddy and no romantic relationship at all is not possible, I just think that the level of love someone would need to fill that role is more likely to be found is a long standing relationship.
Yeah I agree that you have to have a good relationship with the person
So the question is do you have that type of relationship / friendship with someone. And if not how can you find it.
I met my wife in middle school and we have been friends for over 20 years. She will occasionally be my mommy and will diaper me when I ask.
No I don’t maybe because I am autistic I have a hard time keeping friends, so it would be hard I will probably have to take care of myself
Don’t loose hope, be yourself and put yourself out there. Having a good relationship with yourself will help lead to a healthy relationship with others.
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I am trying let see if I will be able to get there
I’m totally on the same page as you, both in terms of your needs and the autistic aspect (I’m bipolar and high-anxiety too). I know that’s what I need and always have. I have a momma, but she lives on the other side of the state. We’re strictly platonic, as she has a family of her own and I’m not really into sex regardless. She doesn’t change me, but that’s not a big deal; I only pad up once a week or so. For me, it’s about getting tucked in and held and being part of a family. I still have a job and love doing some adult things like hanging out with friends, but I need that foundation to keep me steady and even-keel. If I get a transfer to the Seattle area, she wants me to move in with her family. 
I have anxiety and depression too, and it is like you said being a part of a family and knowing that you will have someone to hold me when I need
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My husband and I have been together for 14 years. He has known about my little side for the last 5 or so when I finally accepted myself for what I truly am. My little side is COMPLETELY non-sexual and it is only very recently that my hubby has volunteered to participate. He knows that in kid mode that it’s just cuddles and little kisses.
I know it’s different if you don’t want any sexual relationship at all. I would be asexual if I could be but he does so much for me that I feel it’s the least I can do for him.
Being taken care of is a dream come true for me and a feeling that compares to nothing I’ve ever had before. From the bottom of my heart I hope that everyone finds that love and joy.
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I believe it’s possible.. I mean if you keep searching I’m sure you can find someone who would play that(caregiver role) I too would like to find myself a mommy or a daddy without it being sexual. Anyway, I’m new to this as I am still kinda closeted about this lifestyle. The only person who knew about it was my ex girlfriend and we are not together anymore. But I really hope you are able to find what you are looking for.
I’ve had about 15 caregivers who were completely asexual with me (and a handful who were not!) and I know the arrangement can work well for a period of time.
However, I’ve had several tell me that babysitting an adult can be quite a demanding task … and hard work from time to time. This leads me to think that most won’t put forth the effort on any sort of a regular basis without compensation of some sort. That doesn’t bode well for trying to find caregivers who ‘don’t expect something in return.’
I’ve always paid a good hourly rate, but I have the money to do so, which you may lack. Trying to find people who will ‘baby’ an otherwise healthy and capable adult out of the goodness of their heart is a daunting proposition.
Nobody in my life knows too only here online
I thought that’s the point!
Isn’t that the wanted ‘result’ (if you will)!!!
I was going to reply, but they hit all the answers I was gonna say. I myself feel there is a line with that so its all based on consent and interest.
Thats also what I want is a total nonsexual relationship,
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