Lost Mommy

For the last couple of months I’ve been talking with a girl on Tumblr and we had a lot in common and then I found out she was little too. She lives very far away from me but we chatted so much and told each other things we couldnt tell anyone else; I was so happy to have a little friend. Being little is such a big thing for me and it was so nice to be able to share it with her. One day she called me Mommy and even though I have never been a switch I felt so warm and happy when she called me that. I started to be her Mommy as much as I could online; my days always started off with a smile because she would always have texted me before I woke up, “Good morning Mommy” I started to want to be a Mommy way more than I wanted to be a little for the first time in my life. But the last few weeks she hasnt been answering my messages. I know we dont know each other in person so it might be nothing but I’m used to hearing from her several times a day and i have seen her online but she doesnt answer my messages. I’m heartbroken…she made me love being a Mommy to a baby girl and then she disappeared and I’m so sad. Has anyone had this happen to them? How do I stop being sad?

That is a hard thing to go through. This is the grieving process for loss unfortunately. Even though you never met in person you still had a relationship and committed yourself to it and that doesn’t go away lightly. Hopefully she will message back and at least explain.

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im always here to talk i lost mine (in real life)

and im not creepy or anything :man_shrugging:

I had one totally stop talking to me a few months ago. I was heart broken

Mommy/baby, little friends, sisters etc is very close bond, and it brings just so much happiness and joy.

But it also involves a lot of venerability and trust.

In retrospect she could have felt embarrassed, uncertain or even scared. She could have questioned if she was safe or if she was ready. She may be on the fence so give her space and time, see if she comes back or atleast explained what happened and give you some closure.

She may have left you and knows it hurts. But she doesn’t want to feel guilty or face the confrontation Some people chose to walk away rather than be straight.

You can’t stop being sad immediately and it’s probably gonna be atleast a small hurt for a very long time. But you can still sit down, process it and try to come to terms.

Understanding what happened and learning from it. Could eas the pain and possibly help your future decisions

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People in this lifestyle go through binges where being in role, is all they can think about, and the purges where they don’t think of it at all. I have been here forever, and they come and go and come and go all the friggin time. It’s hard to deal with when you invest time in someone. Hang in there, you will get through this.

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I wish I could experience such a thing.

Unfortunately I seem to be undesirable…

I’m sure you’ll find another little.

Just keep your chin up.

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I just wish if something was wrong or she didnt want to do it anymore she’d have told me :frowning: we talked about stuffed other than being little and I’d still want to be her friend. I feel like this always happens to me…getting close to people who leave me…

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I’m sure you’re not undesirable. It’s hard to find someone to have that bond with. This is the only time I’ve had something like this happen to me and right now I’m so hurt that I almost wish it had never happened…

I wish that were true. Everyone I ever meet just abandons me with no explanation.

I’m really sorry…I know exactly how that feels. I feel like I always care about people more than they care about me and when they get tired of me they just leave without saying anything…

It really sucks doesn’t it?

It really does…it never stops hurting…

I want to share something with both you and the OP no one is inheritantly unlikeable or lacking social grace. But when someone mistreats you, you may start to reflect it in the way you behave and carry yourself and others pick up on it and react the same way

Yes humanity as a whole is generally empathetic, compassionate and very social able. But there are few people who won’t mistreat others or treat them like they’re insignificant. It takes a lot of self awareness and restraint to fight these instincts.

There’s a short video that explains it more clearly I’ll see if I can find it later. For anyone who is interested.

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If you think that bad, I lost all my friends, when I became disable, no one even calls or stop by. I just sit her 24/7 and my wife works at night and sleep during the day and get up at dinner time and goes back to sleep and goes to work 5 to 6 days a week.

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I agree, I started being a daddy and was totally shocked at how much i loved being a daddy, I have always been a baby. I have had two baby girls leave me, one was very strange the way she did it and really hurt and I was mixed up , but one has a first time boyfriend so i really understand her distancing and we are still friends. I still talk to two babies, both are married, as I am so it gets hard at times, but both are quite a ways away and that’s even harder. Wish I could find a baby close so I could totally baby a little girl, although that does scare me because I am afraid I would give up my whole life to be a full time daddy!

I like analogy and comparison. I liked to play dungeons and dragons when I was young. Id still like to but I dont know enough people close by, but that is besides the point. I much prefered to be the player but sometimes in our group no one wanted to be the dungeon master. I realized that if noone did it, there simply would be no game. I started volunteering to do it. My friends started laughing and having fun and then I did too. It turns out that its just the flip side of the same coin. If you really like and understand D&D, you will like all the roles in the game.

Same thing with this stuff.

Someones you can talk to about anything is a good friend, maybe a best friend. But sometimes we lose them through no fault of thier own. or complicated situation no one involved can or is willing to resolve

it’s hard because these people are so special and so connections, losing someone like that, it’ll probably hurt a long time if not a life time.

Ironically it helps to be around others. So the advise I offer to anyone reading this. Stay social, stay active, keep talking and connecting. Accept when it doesn’t go well let it go. Try with new people, stay hopeful, stay positive and if you are of the religious type pray often

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You sound like you’re quick to open, your arms. If you know loneliness in this life, it’s even easier to get too excited. I can’t tell you to care less about your friend or friends. Because that’s probably impossible

But I can send a small wish (or prayer) for gentle touches from others for you. Not every heart is good with rejection.