Looking for helpful hints

Sissy / Girls
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Quick background for those that don’t know. I am 75, my wife is 63, and we’ve been married 37 years.

My wife knew I would be wearing diapers before I started wearing them. That was not a problem as I had just experienced a nighttime bed wetting accident. That was over 3 years ago and I’ve been 24/7 ever since. Shortly before this past Thanksgiving I told my wife I’ve come to really enjoy peeing in them at will. I did not think it necessary to tell her of a lifelong pee fetish. That was also when I told her I had started wearing women’s panties this past June. She has accepted these things. She thinks it’s weird and doesn’t understand why I enjoy wet diapers and women’s panties; but, she’s okay with it. She did mention she wasn’t sure why I felt I needed to tell her these things. I explained it was the secrecy I didn’t like. When lounging around the house I am normally wearing just a diaper and a long (oversized) golf shirt that reaches my knees. The diaper, while it can be seen when I’m in my recliner, is hidden when I stand up. She prefers the things I do (solo anal toy play and taking enemas) be done with discretion. That I do.

There are times I lounge around without a diaper on and just panties on. I’ve kept them well out of view until the past 2 weeks or so. I’ve made it a point to allow a little bit of the panty to show should she look in my direction. Whether or not she’s seen them I don’t know. I’ve also stated wearing stockings over the past 2 months. I doubt she knows this as I’ve not said anything. I figured she would probably have the same reaction of not being sure why I felt the need to tell her. Anyway, I have started to go to bed about every other night wearing just panties and thigh highs. The other nights I have on a well soaked diaper. We go to bed at different times. She goes to bed around 11 pm while I go to bed around 2 am. We just have different sleep cycles. When I go to bed, I walk into the bedroom with just the panties and thigh highs on so if she woke up she could easily see what I was wearing. In the morning, she is usually already up and out of the bedroom when I wake up. If I happen to wake up before her, I remove the thigh highs while still under the blankets and I have a diaper under my pillow I put on over the panties. That way, if she wakes up, I’m being discreet as we agreed I’d be. We sleep in a king bed and one’s movements on one side of the bed never are felt on the other side.

The past week to 10 days, I’ve worn stockings most every day under my slacks. Nobody can see them and I like how they (and I) feel when wearing them. This wearing of women’s lingerie is something I’m truly enjoying. In fact, I am about to order a chemise to lounge and sleep in. However, there is no question in my mind this clothing item will be kept in the closet for a while. I’ll only be able to wear it when my wife is out of the house. That’s not an issue and I know she doesn’t care. I also know at this time she wouldn’t want to see me wearing it.

I happen to use our guest bathroom as it has a tub and shower combination which I much prefer to the master bath which has just a shower. I keep all my dildos and other items in that bathroom. Much of it is kept in a zippered gym bag in the cabinet under the sink. However, I keep 5 dildos, some lube, some cock rings, and a penis pump in the tub and on the edge of the tub. I simply close the shower curtain so they are out of view. I have a bathrobe hanging on the clothes hook on the inside of the bathroom door. I keep 3 or 4 pairs of panties in the robe pockets for easy access. Every 3 or 4 days, I change them out with others (8 or 9 pairs) kept in the gym bag. The rest of my panties (15 or so) are kept in the top drawer of my nightstand. I keep a pair or two of suspender stockings hanging on the same clothes hook as the robe. I’ve no idea what she’s seen and what she hasn’t seen. To me it’s of no consequence. After she goes to bed, I lounge for the next several hours with the stockings on. If she came out of the bedroom, they would be in full view; but, her coming out of the bedroom once she’s gone to bed is extremely rare. If she did walk out on me and saw the stockings, I’d just tell her I thought I was being discreet and had no idea she’d walk out on me. End of conversation and she would know. The point being is that all these things are readily visible if she happened to look in a drawer/tub/clothes hook. They just are not out in full view.

So, here is what I need help with. I would like to introduce her to my stocking wearing. She has every opportunity to see them; but, I don’t provider her with overt opportunities. I know if I were to fall asleep in the living room with them on, she would see them when she gets up to pee between 4 am and 5 am most nights as she’d come out to the living room to wake me up and tell me to go to bed to go to sleep. Anyway, the reason I want her to definitely know about the stockings is I would want to introduce her to me wearing a nightie at some future date so I could wear it to bed in her presence. Understand, I KNOW she would accept all this as something I’m going to do; but, I know she just plain doesn’t care to discuss these things. She has a physical condition that doesn’t allow her to be comfortable being intimate and I know my various proclivities make her think it’s her “fault” I do these things. Nothing could be further from the truth; but, try explaining that to someone who already feels guilty. Anyway, what are some thoughts about introducing stockings and nighties to her since telling her doesn’t seem to be the option she wants?

Thanks for any input.

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I’m bringing back this old thread just to give a couple of updates.

First update: Several weeks ago I decided to wear a pair of panties, a pair of thigh highs, and a nighty to bed. Sometime during the night I apparently pushed the blanket and sheet off me. When my wife woke me up in the morning she was not at all thrilled to see me in full lingerie mode. She let me know she wasn’t happy.

Next update: Last night after she had gone to bed I was in the living room in panties, thigh highs, and a nighty. Before going to bed I had taken the nighty off and hung it up. I sat back down to go to a car web site before heading to bed. Not sure what happened; but, my wife woke me up at about 3 am when she got up to make a bathroom run. (Actually, I often times fall asleep with no advance warning.) She never said a thing all day long about what I was wearing. I’m certain she realized I wasn’t trying to be conspicuous so I hadn’t committed a foul.

Final update: I don’t see her being comfortable seeing me in full female dress mode; so, I’m not going to push it. I’ve no doubt she will catch me from time to time; but, it will not be because I planned it.

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Damn, I did it again on Thursday night. Only this time I fell asleep in my recliner in full lingerie mode - panties, thigh highs, and nightie. My wife woke me up to go to bed about 2:30 Friday morning. It’s now Saturday afternoon and she’s not said a thing to me. While not understanding why and not wanting to see me in lingerie, at least she isn’t being nasty about it and that’s a good thing.

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I would say you and your wife need to hash this out. She’s uncomfortable, it sounds like, but you’re uncomfortable not cross-dressing, and as much as she might want it to be out-of-sight-out-of-mind, sometimes she’s going to encounter it. Whatever you do, don’t suffer in silence and don’t let her suffer in silence. If you’re going to make this work, you both need to be on the same page and feel secure in the stability of your relationship.

The closet is a terrible place to live. At the very least, see if you can start keeping your things in your dresser so you don’t have to hide it away–they’re clothes and sex toys–nothing to be ashamed of IMO.

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Oh, we have hashed it out. She doesn’t want me to be visibly wearing in front of her. She knows I quite often wear panties (almost daily) and is fine with that as she doesn’t see them very often. I keep them in 2 places = both quite visible should she open the top drawer of my dresser or the middle drawer of our bathroom vanity. She also knows I more often than not wear stockings when wearing long pants. My stockings, garters, and 1 nighty are kept on hangers in my closet and another nighty is kept on the clothes hanger on the inside of our bathroom door but is covered by a bathrobe. My sex toys are all kept in a gym bag that sets on the bottom shelf of our bathroom linen closet. Those things kept on hangers in my closet are kept nearest the wall. While visible, they are not prominent when she hangs my clothing after doing the laundry.

We neither one suffer in silence. After almost 40 years together, we are quite secure in our relationship. She knows I wear and I know she prefers not to see me wearing. I guess my last post was just my way of saying how lucky I am that she accepts my accidental exposures as accidental and doesn’t try to make me feel guilty. On a good note, last night I was diapered when falling asleep in my recliner - no lingerie for her to see when she woke me up. :ROFLMAO: :(y):

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