Lifestyle Diaper Lovers explained with Bras

Adult Diapers
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Just another discussion thread.

In an effort to prepare myself for the day I get outed and need to quickly explain myself I often think of ways to explain why I wear diapers to people who think wearing a diaper is completely ridiculous, odd, and many would say sick. People have a negative initial reaction because they think it is extremely unheard of, uncommon, and do not understand why lifestyle diaper lovers choose to wear diapers.

I started thinking about bras and how women, and some men, feel when they wear one.

FIRST let me get this out of the way; bras for many women are necessary and needed to prevent back pain, swaying/swinging soreness, and discomfort. Some, not all.

Ask any woman to leave the house without a bra on and nearly all women will respond NO…

Woman: NO WAY! When I have my bra on I feel more confident, comfortable, less anxious, less worry… which in turn makes me happier and less distracted. If I do not have my bra on I feel embarrassed, anxious, and I just want to leave and get back home ASAP.

Me: That’s how I feel when I have a diaper on, why can’t I have that security too?

**Woman: **Okay… but why is your diaper blue, and has dinosaurs? Why not a plain white diaper?

**Me: **Why is your bra bright peach colour with the words “Party Time” written across it?

Woman: Well, bras have a medial purpose… they can reduce back pain and breast pain, and prevent sagging.

Me: I haven’t seen a doctor or psychologist… but a diaper is therapeutic for me and increases my overall happiness. LDL is uncommon but not super rare, there are several stores and companies who are thriving by providing diapers for LDLs, even amazon and health care/medial suppliers are carrying ABDL diapers as there is demand for them.

Woman: Okay, well do you pee in them?

Me: :sneaky:

Me: That’s a hard one to explain and understand, I do suffer from ***paruresis. **I was once in pain at a rock concert as I couldn’t pee, the mens washroom is wall to wall urinals and I simply cannot pee when shoulder to shoulder with other people. I can’t control it, you rely on a maxi pads and cant control discharge.

There are some other explainable psychological reasons as to why I wear and use a diaper.

Bottom line is think of the differences, mentally, when you are in public with a bra on and without a bra on; that’s how I feel. And wearing a fun colourful “Lets Party” bra further increases your confidence, same applies to ABDL diapers.

*A person with paruresis (shy bladder syndrome) finds it difficult or impossible to urinate (pee) when other people are around. Paruresis is believed to be a common type of social phobia, ranking second only to the fear of public speaking. Paruresis is often first experienced at school

Are You Dressed for Stress?

Anxiety may not be caused by your clothes but what you wear does speak to your level of confidence. Your self-esteem can influence the choices you make about your attire, and your self-esteem is related to your anxiety.

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I’ve got that one covered. Well into my 20’s I had a very shy bladder. I couldn’t use a public restroom. If there was anyone in the restroom at the same time, or even the sound of people outside the door, my bladder locked up hard. It was all about urinating in public, I just had a really strong mental block that I couldn’t overcome. The usual advice to that general sort of problem is “just keep trying, baby steps, work your way up”, and with many things that would be easy to practice, but the opportunities to “try” to use a bathroom (and a urinal in particular) are few per day, so even if you want to try to work your way out of the problem, progress is very slow.

For me, wearing diapers gave me many more opportunities to “practice” taking control of by bladder in public. It works the same for just plain being clothed and wetting, it’s something that you have to be able to take mental control of, to override your brain’s hold on your bladder. After some time in “diaper therapy”, I’ve gained the ability to use public restrooms, and even urinals. (though with another person in the row, I still find it challenging -but possible)

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Wow thats great you have been able to work on it and improve, I’ve tried and tried but I still struggle.

I share your pain and struggles, nightclubs were the worst for me. Plenty of drinks and 5% of the time I was worrying about using the washroom, when I knew I had to go I would monitor the guys going in and out, and wait for a break where I knew it was empty. Sometimes a bunch of guys would follow me in, and some even started talking to me as I was trying to pee. IMPOSSIBLE.

Stare at the wall, think of running water, think of baseball, relax… nothing.

A diaper would have never worked in that situation as it would be flooded half way through the night, but using a diaper at the mall and other outings should be okay and acceptable. My wife disagrees. :frowning: The shy bladder thing is a real struggle and degrades my quality of life and enjoyment.

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Give my Diaper Therapy a try, I bet it will help you. Practice wetting whenever its convenient. Walking home from the store, out doing yard work, heck start with just wetting your diaper while at home alone if you need to start there. Start somewhere that’s “challenging but doable” and work your way up. If you’re in a convenient setting and you feel an urge, challenge yourself to start peeing as quickly as possible. That’s one thing I found that really helped me “take back control” of my bladder. I considered that goal met when I could start wetting my diaper within 5 seconds or so of getting a surprise urge.

ALSO, you don’t have to fully empty out. Just practice getting started. I’m sure you’ve discovered it’s a lot easier to hold open and follow through to empty, so that doesn’t need as much practice. It’s the getting started that’s hard. So pee a little, then stop. Your bladder will get to full again soon, and you’ll have another practice run. The more practice you get, the more control you’ll have, so little wettings give you more practice!