Hello. I just recently accepted my little side. I’m in my littlespace right now actually, but I came out because I wanted to share a few things with all of you.
I see that there are people who struggle. I struggle as well. I’m very fortunate to say that when I wear a onesie and diaper, I fall asleep almost zoned out. But for me, I recognized how it is with me, and… well… I guess I should say that I have a lot of repressed memories of childhood when I was younger. And accepting my little side later in life has allowed me to try and access those memories again. One of the main reasons I didn’t sleep at all for the past two years I’d say is safety.
But hearing so many people can’t enter a littlespace, even with help from accessories that they “think” can help, hurts! Please let me recommend a few things. Yes, there’s a monetary cost, but purchasing the “right” things with the “right” attitude helps a lot. I know… because…
I was engaged to a woman who was good and bad for me. I really don’t want to go into details, but I remembered a tactic recently I used when I was younger:
I recommend, if you can’t sleep, get a stuffie you trust. I have one, Trunky. He’s a huge squeezable elephant that I used to combat severe anxiety. We’re talking the anxiety that makes you shake in place and chills you so much in your core, that you shake uncontrolably. My little side chose Trunky, and I’ve used him as a way for me to ride out my anxiety and panic attacks. Reliving one of my repressed memories, If I place Trunky in such a way that he watches over me while I sleep, I feel protected and I can fall asleep. Same if I have several stuffies in bed that I trust. I keep saying trust, because I had one that was given to me that I didn’t trust, and I had to dispose of him. I trust the stuffies I have, and if you choose to do that, and have a stuffie watch over you…be honest with yourself, and say out loud to yourself your decision. Honestly, this has helped me out the most.
If you also have a door lock, set one up. If you don’t, consider even making a simple hook-bolt lock. The reassurance that you are protected by the door to your sanctuary helps a lot.
Make your room your littlespace. And I say this, and I also know that’s hard. But for me, just having stuffies I trust in bed, lots of pillows, and wearing diapers/onesies is enough for me to melt into my littlespace… but the extra accents that keep me in there are things like fleece blankets, drop pillows, cuddle blankets, and cute things. Even the sight of an unused pacifier next to my bed is enough to keep me in my littlespace. I know I’m planning on revamping my bed to have two extra bar walls, and turn it into an adult crib… because I want my room to be my littlespace.
Maybe this helps. Maybe not. I just wanted to share because I think it could help someone. If you’re looking for a good onesie that can cover you so well, I’d recommend Forever Lazy’s footed adult onesies. It’s like walking around in a fleece blanket… that, and I also built-a-bear for myself, and he’s so precious to me.
If you want, please reach out to me, and I can talk with you.
Stay young and happy.