So its been an almost non stop barrage of weirdos who are only in the ABDL life for their sexual gain or looking to have a non consensual ABDL relationship. There have been a few people who I have blocked on fetlife that made me very uncomfortable and set my nerves on end. I was in a mildly abusive relationship a few years back and I am never going back. I really wish there were better options than some sketchy looking ‘fetish dating site’ I’m sorry if I sound like a broken record but I thought it was fun and games until I posted one pic of me in a diaper and all the weirdos started coming out of the woodwork. I just want a nice and gentle non controlling or abusive daddy is that too much to ask for?
No it’s not and funnily enough I’ve just met a Mistress in fet that might with luck become my mummy/mentor to take me deeper in the sissy side of things.
Can you PM me your Fet name?
i’m still PCbaby on there.
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I’m sorry to hear about your experience with fetlife, that sounds awful. 
While I don’t know of any fetish/abdl dating websites you could always try Instagram or Twitter, there’s tons of abdls on there! Just be careful and try not to interact with vanilla accounts.
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The Fetlife experience seems to be hugely varied from person to person.
I for one have had great success and fun on there.
You do have to keep in mind that it isn’t a support site. Most people are there to get their kink on. The groups you fall into will also make a huge difference with respect to your experience, and the fun niche groups can be hard to find.
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I also think there’s still a strong tendency for many overzealous male ABs (and those with AB predilections) to ‘come out of the woodwork’ anytime a biological female presents herself.
That’s an unfortunate manifestation of the law of supply and demand … males still tend to predominate the infantile arena, and women who are also “into diapers” are still seen as something of a rarity.
If it makes you feel any better, I gave up on FetLife some years ago. I’m not judgmental, but most of the female personalities I encountered were just too creepy for me.
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How do I pm you?
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Yea I know what you mean I had some that thought because I am a Little boy, all I want was to have my bottom spanked.
Or put in some kind of humiliating situation.
No slowly get to know me eather the adult ne or Siysiy. Like I going to put my Little side in that situation .
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I signed up for a couple but they have kind of turned into a waste of time as one site turned into mostly littles/babies looking for caregivers and the other one was no one in 500 mile radius 
I wanna keep trying with fetlife for a bit but twitter sounds like a good option any recommends on stuff to follow on twitter for that sort of thing?
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The more I read up on the topic, the more I am relieved to be agender and asexual. The typical male ego seems to run parasitic and predatorial…the world over.
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My best experience in finding relationships has been to not go looking too hard for them specifically. Join communities, look for and have fun experiences, and you’ll just naturally run into people with sympatico sensibilities that you click with.
To translate that into what you’re looking for, don’t go on fetlife looking to “find a daddy”. Look for meetups and gatherings and events that you can attend and that interest you, and you might run into such a person or run into someone who knows of such a person and thinks you two would get along and hooks you up (you know.. cause that always ends well.. but it could in theory at least).
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Can’t really do that rn with covid tho I do agree
This is similar to why I find site for trans people dating a turn off and unfruitful. You’d think a site specifically for a group of people would work but they seem to attract a lot of the ones you don’t want.
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I think part of that stems from the creepers who are into that stuff and think ‘why watch it when I can have the real thing’ its part of the reason I have avoided dating sites for so long its either pay money to have 75% of people harass you or don’t pay and you can’t talk to anyone
Makes me feel bad for trans and les people as there are a lot of creepy dudes who will go out of their way to harass them just to ‘see some action’ cis women seem to do it to gays too although I see that more at gay bars than online. If I knew how to code websites I would consider making my own abdl dating site and asking people from the community what they would want to see.
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Im in some reddit groups however a lot of them are very infrequent with activity I’d use my facebook but those groups seem inactive too
I would be too afraid to try facebook groups without creating an alt account just for trying to find a partner in those groups.
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ya I wish I could find someone in fetlife too but also am just about done with it too though I would like to find a female who’s accepting of ABDL and DL
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what state are u in? I do know of 2 guys looking for a baby girl
Im in MA near boston
Oh no, what a bummer! Luckily twitter has much more diversity since the rules are laid back when it comes to adult/kinky content, plus I’ve seen a huge influx of abs and dls on there. I’d say look into hashtags to see what you find and make an introduction post about yourself once you set up your profile.
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