So one of my best friends is gonna move in with me to an apartment at the beginning of next year. I want to tell him that I’m an abdl, but I don’t know how. I know he will be understanding because his girlfriend (who is also moving in with us) is a DDLG. In other words, my problem isn’t telling him, it’s how I’m gonna tell him. Any ideas?
I’ve been able to tell all of my friends over the years, and in each case I first gauged their possible reaction by having conversations about fetishes with them, whether it’s just a casual discussion about fetishes, cracking jokes about them, sharing each other’s kinks, etc. If your friends are openly into DDLG, that seems like the best possible icebreaker to easily bring up the topic of various fetishes or even discussion about ageplay, which would be the best segue into asking them what they think about AB/DL and being able to tell them from there. You have a very easy in to naturally bring up the subject.
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The fact that your friend is into DDLG is pretty perfect. If I were to bring up ABDL to a roommate, I’d probably start by asking what does he want from a roommate and if there’s anything you should avoid doing. Like basic stuff: keeping loud music down, no smoking inside, don’t leave dishes in the sink, if it’s cool to be in lounge clothes (as in shirtless or in undies) etc. And spin that into what you’d expect, and then ask “hey is it cool if I bring some little stuff into the apartment?”
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I told my best friend by asking her first if she knew what an adult baby was? No, she said, but then she thought about it, oh, like that episode on CSI?
Yes, I’m an adult baby. YOU? How long have you known? All my life, and it just got better the more we talked. Television shows liked that really help people to understand. Now I’m little around her whenever we’re alone, in fact, she has babysat me once, and has encouraged me to live the lifestyle. If I had not told her, I would still be in the closet. It’s like jumping out of an airplane. you just do it.
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I’ve told a couple former roommates. I don’t think the first one quite “got” it. She’s one of my best friends, but she’s also incredibly, incredibly derpy. The second one did, however, and she was totally supportive. I framed it as “there’s something I’ve been wanting to tell you” and just taking it from there. She’s one of the most open-minded people I know, so I wasn’t worried about her reaction - but I also wasn’t expecting it to be as supportive as it was. Among other things, she told me I was welcome to wear whenever I wanted and that she wanted to ensure I was comfortable wearing around the house. Later that night I showed her one of my diapers; I also invited her to help herself to one if she was ever curious, but I don’t think she took me up on it. After our talk I began wearing regularly around the house. She later told me she never knew - which I find hard to believe, since she once came home when I was wearing a 24/7 under a pair of baggy sweats, and there’s no way they could’ve disguised the sound…was there?
Last year I told a friend of mine. She’s my only IRL kinky friend; she’d just finished telling me about being polyamorous, and I felt it was only fair to tell her I was a DL. We’ve confided in each other since, which, as you might imagine, has been wonderful.
Thats pretty easy.
Just talk to him about what him & her would like to be able to do openly in the apt and once that is started tell him there are things you would like to do as well and go from there