I’m moving in with my someome soon and I’m excited for that chapter of my life but they know about me been an abdl and don’t support it but since I’m paying half the rent shouldn’t I be able to be myself.
Since they know about it I’d say you are fine but don’t shove it in their faces so to speak.
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That’s exactly what I want to avoid but they have made it clear they want nothing to do with it and do not do it around them. I can’t afford a place of my own either
That is a bit of a pickle. What does around them mean? If you entertain your ABDL side while in your own room do they care or just if you are socializing with them and wearing say under your jeans?
I’m not sure I think it just means in general don’t do it around them
Curious, is “my someone” a typo, like you tried to change it from my friend to someone, or was it meant to mean a SO/Partner?
If its a friend, then what you do in the privacy of your own room is your business.
Not acting or dressing AB-ish in common areas (living room, ect) but wearing under regular clothes should also not be a problem.
Paying half the rent should also allow access & freedoms to common areas.
Your friend not supporting is one thing, and not shoving your AB activities in their face is basic respect.
But if living together means you being a shut in in your bedroom most of the time is not ideal either.
Also, If you are not asking them to join or acting overly AB-ish I would also see no problem with say watching TV together in footie PJs & a diaper.
If this is a SO/Partner, well then things get really, really tricky and that is a whole different bag of cats.
Do you share a bedroom or get separate ones?
In general, Like in the apartment, or just common areas? It’s a very important distinction, one means constant arguments the other means being confined to your room while you want to do AB activities.
Closest thing I had to a roommate was living in the spare bedroom of my landlords house, during that time I wasn’t wearing diapers so this issue never arose, but now I can’t imagine having a room mate and not being aloud to do AB things.
I still think even if she means just common areas your not to do AB stuff this will become a very contentious issue and if you’re not up for arguments about it on a some what regular basis I wouldn’t be entering into this. There’s a good chance by the time this is over you will no longer be friends.
I lived in a shared house but everyone was a Little it was great as I every one know if I was in Little space. And how we treated each other.
I would ask your friend about it so you can come to agreement on how far they are happy with you being in diapers and the like.
just so you are both comfortable.
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I live in a shared house, we’re all single and all have our own rooms (with locking knobs). We all respect each others’ privacy but we all get along, esp. in the common areas. It’s a great scene here right now.
All my baby stuff is hidden, excepting BeckyBear 
, a pacifier, a bottle 
and a small stack of diapers 
, all next to my pillow. Oddly enough, I’m also the oldest there. And not a soul there knows about my being AB or being sissy, as it’s confined to my room. And it works out fantastically that way. 
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You live in a group home?
Not sure what that means, but I’ll clarify my situation, if it helps: the home is owned by a younger, single guy who opened his home to help others out, others who could only afford a room and not an apartment. Perhaps your definition of a group home is different? Let me know…
Group homes are homes for disabled folks who can’t live independently but don’t want to be lonely either.
Ah, gotcha. Nope, this arrangement is a varied bunch: most of the people here work, both the homeowner and I are disabled but can still care for ourselves.
It was my to say my person like my best friend. You have a good point, thanks 
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I’m not sure I think it would be a shared room as we don’t have a money for a bigger place yet
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It’s not an easy place to be in. Neither of us can stay a home with our parents. I’ve been needing to move out for some time and I thought when I did I’d be able to be myself a little more but that doesn’t seem to be the case
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If your plan is to rent a One bedroom apartment (or similar space like a rented room, studio, loft, ect) and share that bedroom/sleeping space with her is a bad idea.
In order for both of you to remain friends and for you to be able to do any AB things you will (in the very least) need separate bedrooms.
I get not everybody is into non-vanilla things and would rather not see these things going on around them.
But there are far more stranger/odd/ect BDSM things in this world then being an AB.
She is already making demands of you that you might not be able to meet, which Will absolutely 100% cause problems for both of you (mostly you) sooner then later.
Even trying to confine your AB activies to your own room there is going to be times you will have to leave your room while dressed.
I can understand her not wanting to see you in say just a diaper and T-shirt but if she expects to not see anything AB related this will not work.
There needs to be at least some shared compromise between the two of you.
I would suggest pretending as if they don’t know and going about business as if you were trying to keep it private from them and not get caught. It is what many of us do and it should still slow you to enjoy without bothering them.
The problem is the person knows about it, things that may have been looked over probably wont be. Depending how hostile about this they intend to be the person might actually be looking for things that would point to them wearing diapers.
That’s a tough situation, and I feel you’re going to have to go without diapers til a better solution to the situation can be made.