OK I’ll try to keep this short. For my Little his ABDL is just one aspect of him and his interests. We’ve been playing baby for 2 years now and it’s all good. But I want to help him explore some of the other things he has expressed interest in, and he is up for trying my own personal top fantasy too. But I don’t know where to buy the stuff. So… anyone got any good recommendations for buying feminine looking lingerie but for men? Figured if anyone is going to know it will be someone on here. You’re always very helpful with weird stuff. Anyway, corsets, panties, suspenders - you get the idea. I mean I’m all for him trying my stuff on but I understand that it might be more comfortable for him if I can find some made for a more male shaped body. I don’t want too cutesie - we have his baby stuff for that. Ideas? Thanks in advance.
A good start is Ruffles4you, and they can be found at Etsy.
Some others I know of,
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Thanks. Not really after the sissy stuff though. I’m not wanting to diss what other people like. I just personally find it unappealing, clownish and rather fake, which I appreciate for some is the point. It would be a major turn off for me to dress him up in that stuff though. I’m after more stuff that actual women would wear but shaped for a guy. I want him to be actually feminine, not pretend feminine, if that makes sense.
It will depend a little from where in the world you are located, but in my experience, ordinary shops or web-shops selling female lingerie works for men also. What are you/him comfortable to do to go shopping? The shape of his body is important for what fits.
Some of the stuff aren’t ment to be super-comfortable anyway.
I prefer panties that are full cover or shape-style, the most important are the width of the crotch, and these styles are ofte wider so there’s room enough. This keeps it more comfortable and things don’t fall out. Swimwear are also great for this. Thongs usually not.
Suspenders are pretty easy. Corsets are more difficult, but plus-sizes would be a place to start. Don’t go for a too tight fit the first time.
Bras can also be difficult to find the right fit, but I like it when the straps are more centered in front, if you know what I mean.
If they are too much to the sides, like in some push-up and plunge-bras, they tend to chafe in front of the armpits because of the missing boobs that draw them a little forward.
If you want to expand to dresses or skirts/blouses, remember that the male waist is not so prominent and is much lower than of a woman.
This makes finding a dress that sits perfect very difficult, but that’s a struggle for many women too, have I heard…
Hope you make this come through! A dream scenario for many of us:heart:
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OnePiece had some helpful advice also, check out regular feminine shops. Look for what appeals to you, then check fit.
Actually, there are underwear specifically made for men that looks feminine.
At a higher price end there are *Katie & Laura’s Fancy Satin Panties. *They look absolutely adorable.
On the other end you can find the «same» on, amongst others, Temu.
Cheap enough that you can bye in several sizes so you get one that fits.
Quality can be an issue, but there are lots to chose between.
Me personally - I generally hate shopping at the best of times, especially shoe and clothes shopping, but this wouldn’t embarrass me or anything. It’s just a job to be done and as horrid to me as shopping for anything else would be. Him though - that would not be comfortable for him. Although if I scout out shops first he may be ok with having me as the default. He has a very slender but pretty muscular body.
As for your fitting advice - thanks. I generally have the same issues myself. I’m kind of short and have a slightly more masculine physique - it’s one of the reasons I absolutely hate clothes shopping myself. Bras in particular can be a real pain in the ass to find. So perhaps the fact he sees me having the exactly same issues with clothing might help him a bit. Maybe that’s what I’ll do first - take him shopping for me so he can see the struggle.
You might try Goodwill or some thrift stores. I have found a few things at those besides some cheap diapers.
One thing I’d do is ask him a lot of questions, is it just lingerie he’s after? Does he want to dress up fully? If so what has he really wanted to try? Are there fabrics he’s curious about, what colors does he like. Let him know it’s all okay so he isn’t afraid to ask for something he really wants but fears you may judge him.
I like wearing little looking clothes over my thick diapers when shopping out of town mainly. Wife is alittle more open about it out of town. She asks me what I would do if we ran into someone we know while out. I said hide in the bathroom or tell them I working on a Halloween costume.
oh we went through that phase a long, long time ago - we are most definitely on the same page there - we just haven’t tried it because we focussed on his baby thing first. Kind of funny story there. He presented his ABDL side to me first because he was most concerned that I would freak about him wanting to wear a corset and tights. You can imagine his surprise this summer when I told him I wanted to dress him up in a burlesque style outfit 
Anyway, in this regard he is leaving it all up to me. I know basically what he likes colour/ fabric/ how he envisioned it in his head etc. But as with everything else, it’s my call. And as he knows I have wanted a partner to dress up too - as in we are both well and truly fully engaged with this scenario - he has given me full control to dress him as I please. It is my “thank you” for babying him the last 2 years. (PS have I mentioned how flipping awesome my Little is? If not, I should do because he is)
I really hope you can join the new discord so you can keep us informed on your adventures.
never used Discord before - which new discord would that be?
I’m going to need help with make up for him too. I’m the least girlie girl on the planet so he is having to reassess his desire to have me teach him about make up.
Here’s the link https://discord.gg/gFTjgqHE
Well, I used to work at Sephora. You’d be surprised, even the least girly girls still are lightyears ahead of most crossdressers who are trying makeup for the first time. Like if you can do a basic smokey eye, you’re already ahead.
What I’d do in your shoes would be to find some makeup tutorials on Youtube for burlesque style makeup and have HIM watch them and practice the techniques.
I wish the site wasnt going offline soon. Join that discord and look for Jasmine and we’ll reconnect
I have never worn makeup in my life. It has zero appeal to me. Which is possibly why my little and I get on so well. We are like the total polar opposites of each other, even down to the cross dressing thing. Although as I’m female presenting no one actually cares if I dress like a boy. Anyway, I shall join and probably use the same name.
The burlesque thing is my dream. His is to be the most elegant female he can be. We shall alternate.
You don’t happen to have any tips for wigs for him? We are in Sweden so preferably European makers.
Thanks.
Sorry, I have no wig tips at all, I’ve never worn one and wouldn’t know what to recommend.
I buy some feminine clothes from Amazon. At present, I’m wearing a thick, all cotton sort of t shirt. It’s pink with light blue horizontal stripes. I also have several pairs of thick cotton girl shorts that I enjoy. You just have to look. Putting search words that reveal what you want it the difficult part. Just keep trying.
I don’t have any good tips for wigs. I have my own hair that’s long enough even though it’s getting thinner because of age and life’s occasional hard blows. Is growing his own hair an option? It takes time.
I understand that a good wig is expensive, but if you can settle for a wig of less quality, there’s plenty from Amazon and Temu.
Sadly not really - he has been looking into hair transplantation for the receding hairline. But there are other work related safety reasons for why he doesn’t want to have long hair all the time.
I need to keep my hair out of the way at work for safety reasons as well, but there’s ways of doing that, as many other persons with long hair have found out.
In danger of being a bit harsh, I believe there’s a way ahead from hair transplantation to long hair. I think I would have used that money on some good wigs instead.