I’m curious how people balance their little side in relationships? Do you set aside specific time to be little…If you’re always in the mindset how do things work? I’m looking for ideas on how to balance being little and still satisfying the needs of my girlfriend. If anyone has any suggestions or ideas I’d appreciate any insight. Thank you!
This is something I am working out too. I think being as open as possible is the best place to start.
I have recently got into the habit of slipping a nappy on before bed and falling asleep, then my partner will find me padded and that can come as a surprise. Sometimes they might not be in the mood…etc.
I just try my best to read the situation I’m in - my ABDL needs are down the list as it’s more of a ‘me’ thing. He doesn’t get anything out of it. I think setting specific times to be little would not work for me personally as it’s more a mood that comes over me.
So I guess you have to ask yourself if they want to be more involved with the little side of things, or if they have specific needs that should be thought about. And there is the balance if you can cater for both - hope that makes sense!!!
So, disclaimer here first of all. I do live a 24/7 lifestyle and dynamic with my partner BUT as for balancing adult needs and my baby needs and my daddys big boy needs, we handle those when we’re both in the mood and I’m not not in a little mindset. Are dynamic is in no way sexual, and because I am an ab who is little pretty much all of the time, and also a nonsexual little, it can make it hard! We make it work. My advice is to take things at a natural rate, let things happen as they do.
I never had a partner, but I would think if I had one and we were home alone, I would want to live as a little like eat in my highchair while I play with my toys, or have mommy change my diaper and have my pacifier with me. BUT, at all times talk to my mommy as an ADULT. Watch adult TV, eat adult food along with my baby food. I would want to respect her, and what she likes too. I guess what I’m trying to say is I would be physically a baby, but mentally an adult whenever we were alone.
It’s really up to what you and your partner are ok with. It’s best to start slow so you don’t overwhelm your girlfriend while being honest with yourself and what you feel you need.
Oh boy oh boy. It’s really different for everyone. I’m on the throes of my second divorse because of it; I’ve also met couples who match perfectly on that level and live happily every after.
What I will say is you have to find your own comfort level with it before expecting to know how to weave it into the fabric of a relationship; that is taking an already complex matter and throwing gasoline on it. If you aren’t sure of what that side truly means to you on an emotional level, well…you’ll end up like me.
Part of it depends on you and what type of AB/little you are.
Are you more the age/role play side where you decide how & when you’re little or are you more of the innate little that will sometimes just fall in & out being little?
As I continue, I want to first point out that I’m speaking more from an alternative lifestyle/BDSM lens, because that’s where my experience lies, but intimate relationships are intimate relationships, and have commonalities regardless of flavor. If you are a person who is strictly a strictly non-sexual ageplayer/lifestyler, then please try to hear me out for the relationship advice itself vice worrying too much about the acronyms. I’ve been going through this myself recently and I want to help as many others as I can. Human sexuality and personality are complicated things, and everyone is different, the key to finding each other is working together to integrate your differences in a mutually beneficial way.
So my Mommy sent me two podcasts to watch that helped me out tremendously about general relationship things. The person being interviewed was so similar to me that it could have BEEN me. The struggle you are describing is very real and probably the most important thing you need to address in your relationship. The heart of the matter revolves around finding ways to integrate your needs into the relationship such that by fulfilling your needs, your partner’s needs are also being fulfilled. There is likely to be some give and take in that regard, but personally I don’t even like saying that, because it isn’t transactional. It isn’t about “I did this thing for you, now you tolerate me doing this for a while.” It’s more about clearing the rocks and landmines out of your dynamic, which takes a good bit of work and honest conversation to do. Here’s a brief back and forth as an example:
A) “I need to be little and wear diapers.”
B) “I cannot see you as a sexual being when you are little and wearing diapers.”
Where do you go from there? Well, I don’t have the specific answer, but the general direction to go is to find out what each person’s hangups are. You need to be honest with yourself and find out why you need the things you need. What specifically does this or that particular blend do for you personally? This is an extremely difficult set of soul searching (at least for me), but I’ll go out on a limb here and say that it’s really part of getting to know yourself in your life’s journey.
Once you understand yourself, you need to understand your partner. Try to get to the bottom of their own hangups. Is there an aspect of their personality or desires that your own personality and desires could cater to? Maybe if it were presented in a slightly different way? Maybe there are underlying assumptions (and with ABDL you can BET that there are tons of underlying assumptions, it’s probably our biggest obstacle). Those underlying assumptions need to be addressed, and carefully. If you have been with a person for a significant period of time, both of you have invested in each other, and have a certain level of trust with each other. Leverage that trust and hear each other out. You may find that once you sort out the hangups you go on to have an amazing relationship the likes of which you thought were only possible in fantasies.
Here are the podcasts I was referring to:
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Please give those a listen. I realize non-sexual folks might be put off by the discussion of sexuality, but honestly, I just listened to both of those last night and wow, do I feel enlightened by the honesty and frankness of the discussion. I wish I had heard these years ago.