Quick disclaimer… i am not trying to be offensive rude or judgemental and this question alone could upset someone so I want to say now that is not my intent. Please don’t rip me apart this is a reaction I can’t help. My question is for non sexual abdls and abdls who have experienced trauma. Does the sexual side of abdl make you feel uncomfortable? It does for me, and its really difficult having social media to share my little side because so many abdl are extremely sexual. Abdl and being baby are such a pure thing to me and it often make me feel physically ill to hear or see it. Am I alone?
I wouldn’t say the sexual side people find in it bugs me: different strikes, different folks. For me, though, like you, it’s not sexual. It’s about innocence and emotional contentment. I would say I’m about 99+% AB and really not a DL at all - the side of our world which is typically more sexually charged.
I think it’s pretty well-established that our mindset is in the minority. No worries, however: all are welcome here so long as you are polite and try to keep an open mind. 
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Spectrum Spectrum Spectrum.
This was the learning curve for me coming out. My push into ABDL was for sexual reasons. It was my intention for the diapers to be used for sexual reasons. But when it came time to wear a real diaper it ultimately became a non sexual thing. To my surprise my AB side floated to the surface and I’ve been enjoying it.
I wanted to share with everyone. Even strangers! But because ABDL is at least considered a kink for many I’ve had to pull back and take steps to be safe. Meaning that some people may not find your openness about ABDL to be cute or innocent. They may even show distain or disgust. Even among others that may be open about alternative life styles the phrase “your kink is not my kink” is important. For instance my close friends are very open minded and my little side very much would love for them to be apart of ABDL so I can be closer to them. But my prospective and need to wear diapers will probably never be fully understood by them.
The sexual side is still there a bit. I do get arousal from viewing others in diapers. But when it comes to engaging in a sexually explicit act when in little mode it sometimes feels very off putting. It’s a strange internal struggle. I’m an adult with needs and wants that are sexual in nature. When I’m in little mode it’s a distant thought that doesn’t need my attention. Finding the balance has been my focus. Allowing each side their time to shine.
BTW yesterday was my longest being diapered. Almost 20 hours and I enjoyed it very much. 
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I’ve always wanted to wear diapers, since I was 4.
I discovered ABDL two years ago and realized that wearing diapers for fun was a thing and that they made baby diapers for adults (tykables/rearz)! SO COOL I was SOOOO HAPPY. It was never a sexual thought throughout my whole life, I simply wanted to wear diapers and go about my day.
But then I started Googling ABDL and discovered a that there were a lot of kinky sides to ABDL, and that was surprising. One can’t help but think “wait, you want to have foreplay with someone wearing a baby diaper, and then start doing oral on them?” Seems too close to fantasizing about molesting a toddler or baby. That’s no way to care for or treat a baby/toddler and it’s a disgusting lifestyle to live.
So yes, I am very hesitant to tell anyone that I am ABDL because the internet will leave them shocked and they will get the wrong idea about me.
I wear diapers because they bring comfort and security.
I am ABDL because I really like the calm, comforting, safe atmosphere and experience of being in a completely **safe place. **
Once in a while I will get into full ABDL mode with a blanky, pacifier, diaper, and put on calming baby music as I drink warm milk from a Nuk baby bottle… it’s purely relaxation and almost like meditation.
The idea of someone trying to fu#$k me ruins everything.
During my ABDL discovery I learned a lot, here at ADISC, about diaper masturbation. I was put off but I tried it during my early days, I was left feeling disgusted and it completely ruined ABDL for about two weeks.
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Yes as one ventures into ABDL you will necessarily find the sometimes shocking extremes of the kink side of ABDL. What I mean specifically is the far side of DL that can be viewed as almost pure fetish like neophyte said. And I’ll admit that some stuff turns me on, other stuff is shocking to see. It’s like my little side is horrified by to the “pure” fetishistic behaviors that some engage in. Even to the point where I get a little scared seeing it. It’s almost like a stranger danger feeling if that makes sense. But I also understand clearly that the mature part of me and many others have a sexual drive that this fetish can be very enjoyable at the same time. Being safe about it is important.
BTW lifestyelbabygirl, don’t be concerned about asking questions. Ask with understanding and curiosity and people here will answer your questions.
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lifestylebabygirl, you have not offended me, and I suspect that you have not offended anyone. I have heard more than once that diapers help soothe trauma victims with the comfort, security, and innocence that diapers represent. Although I am not a trauma victim, my diapers provide me with the dialectic of being a responsible adult with the comfort, security, and innocence of a wet warm diaper, and for me, also messy. You are not alone, and good fortune to you in overcoming trauma. hopefully with trauma-focused psychotherapy, and if your diapers help, then great.
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As a non-sexual abdl and someone who has experienced trauma i can say you are not alone, i dislike the sexual-side of abdl art and it makes me uncomfortable to a point as well.
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Yes. Even after many many years. There isn’t much of a sexual side to me since.
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I don’t see it as a sexual thing at all. - Although SOMETIMES the two do collide, it’s separate really (Like a Computer vs. an Operating System)
HOWEVER - it at least looks like ever here, I am a bit of an odd ball!
Have NEVER been out of diapers (nerve damage since birth causing IC issues), along with other disabilities - mild, but a LOT of them - just made use of some other ab products easier on a lot of people ever since I can remember (though growing up, no one referred to it that way - in fact never even heard that term until I was in my mid-twenties)
Anyway - point is - while abdl may be part of sexual activity at times (starting in my teens) - they are actually two completely different things.
(btw - mid fifties now.)
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Sex & Nappies go together for me.
A long time in nappies being teased and really treated like a baby, doing as I’m told, no argument, then, finally, sex.
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Hey, I think it is pretty understandable that the sexual side of AB makes you feel uncomfortable. I admire people who do AB stuff totally for non sexual reasons: You can be sure everything they do comes from the heart (and not from the sex organ).
For me it is a crucial point, for deciding how much “adult baby” is good for my live, to find out my real motivation why I’m doing this. Is it due to the fact that I have a diaper fetish? Do I want to feel little again to release stress? Both? Something else? It is not an easy question. I still searching for the answer. I don’t want to be a total slave of my sexuality but if the wish for adult baby stuff comes from the heart it is much easier for me to accept it.
And yes I have to admit it: For me woman in adult baby clothes are attractive. Sorry, but it is what it is
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I disagree.
Well. That’s okay. Life has to weather some discomfort or we’d all be so blissed out we’d never get round to no nappies at all.
Hi Sister!
Well everybody loses their libido in the end … whenever that is. But if nappies aroused you when you were young they were and still are sexual. It’s your libido that’s changed.
What is*** pure fetish*** in AB/DL.
That was the point - NEVER actually did! (Not alone anyway - that was ALWAYS a matter of medical need).
Totally non-sexual when I regress obviously or have a need to regress… sexual themes is often then either not interesting or I don’t see it or is varying degrees of distressing. I’m a trauma survivor, but it isn’t sex related.
Outside of regression, some of the time I enjoy the erotica of abdl themes and content, not very often and it’s still mildly distressing because abdl is still so much therapeutic to me and I don’t like mixing the two, though I’ve been an observer for the scene for quite a long time now so the existence of erotica aspects doesn’t bother me like it does some regressors who seem to hate on those that like it.
Diapers weren’t sexual to me until I climaxed in them for the first time (happened when I was 21-years-old). I had always been interested in diapers at a very young age of 5. Back then, diapers were just fascinating. I never associated diapers with sexual things back then and my parents never taught me about the birds and the bees. After learning I was ABDL at the age of 18, and after I climaxed on my own into a Goodnight diaper, I was immediately hooked on the sexual aspect. Even to this day, about 20 years after that first sexual incident, I have not been able to shake the sexual connection with diapers and go back to where I started with my original fascination with them. I still have to disclose this to my loving wife, who knows I like diapers, but doesn’t know that I’m currently wearing on occasion.
You really should share this with your wife. In a marriage secrets can become toxic.