As everyone on Discord knows, I live in a nursing home, for now. Just wondering if I should come out to the staff here that I’m wearing women’s underthings?
Hmm if you wanna give them a heads up if they are that up close an personal with you. To provide you proper care. Then sure I am very much assured that this isn’t the first time they have seen something like this lol
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Given where you live would it be safe for you to say such a thing to them, are you at risk of discrimination or eviction?
Would it make a positive difference in the treatment/care you receive? Would wearing women’s under garments prevent them from treating you properly in an emergency? If the answers are “No”, I don’t see the point in telling them. Depending upon the kind of treatment/care you are receiving, they may discover it on their own.
I would echo some of the concerns here. If you are dependent on someone that might not be accepting of your choices, then where is the benefit for you?
I recognize the concerns you have about divulging something that you most likely kept private.
Based on my experience with a relative living in assisted living, the facility handles laundry. So, assuming they will do your laundry and you will need to make sure your laundry gets back to you, your selections of clothing will become known. I have also grown to know that the staff at such facilities gets to know all of the likes, dislikes and quirks of their residents, and will be accommodating as long as you do not cause them trouble. Your choice of underwear certainly should not cause them any trouble so you may want to clue in those who give you the most assistance.
I hope this helps you make your decision.
Let us know what you decide and how it works out. Good luck.
I’ve already thought out the discrimination / eviction thing, contact the ACLU.
Unless they are handling your laundry or help you to get dressed/undressed it shouldn’t be their concern.
It is more on how open you want or choose to be and if them knowing is of any benefit to you besides the feelings of relief that they know.
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Why?
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I’d second Adair37’s question: Why would you? Is there some compelling reason forcing you to disclose to others who likely couldn’t care less?
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I feel compelled to comment again on the subject. The world is an imperfect place and is full of injustices. One should not expect others to unquestionably accept one’s beliefs, morals or habits. Forcing one’s self onto others is as obnoxious as intolerance. In a situation where one is dependent on another for their physical well being such as in an assisted living facility, it is quite the gamble to ‘come out’. You would most assuredly come across at least one or two that will be not so accepting and then what do you do? Complain? Demand that they accept you? Pragmatically, at a time where health care workers are already strained, stressed, overworked, etc., I would not want to be pushing boundaries.
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