So recently i just pulled my roommates aside to have the conversation about ABDL, to make them aware of some of the things that they might see while in the house. I was extremely stressed by this and am still shaking from the disclosure of this information I’m hoping my Binky and Plushie will calm me back down as this felt very traumatic for me. Has anyone ever experienced these kinds of feelings upon disclosure of your status as an AB, Little , Etc? And how did you or do you cope with this amount of stress?
Deep breaths, focus in the moment which should be holding your plushie tight. Give yourself some time and the stress will start to lower. When you’re at a level of stress you can deal with, then figure out what’s next for you which if you’re on the east coast it would probably be dinner.
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Ever since i did this i have been snuggled up tight with my plushie and binky in mouth, the shaking has stopped for the most part but now i have tears in my eyes.. I’m cst so dinner is a step or two away but one of my roommates gonna be sending me a pizza home after she gets to work, perks of the roommate being the manager of the local domino’s
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Did they react poorly to it? You didn’t note how they reacted, so I have to assume it wasn’t too favorable if it’s leaving you feeling this stressed out. There are many different ways of explaining it to people, sometimes you just have to know how to choose your words carefully in a way that they will personally understand.
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I think it went well i did not get any negative vibes from it… it is just the initial shock of actually telling them. I am a very very reserved person so when i divulge some things such as this, i always feel overtly stressed from it as it takes a lot out of me mentally, i have high confidence that they were understanding, i am usually real good at reading people, but this was different somehow
That’s pretty darn good, though, because such a thing could have obviously gone in a very bad direction. At best, maybe they’re just non-chalantly cool about it, at worst, maybe they’re just confused. I think as long as they weren’t insulting about it or, God forbid, threatening to kick you out, it seemed to go pretty well.
Speaking for myself, all of my own closest friends know, and to my surprise, most of them immediately accepted it, and frankly, that can sometimes be the most confusing response of all. For the few times I “came out”, I was fully prepared to have to explain it at length, to delve into the psychological reasons behind being ABDL/little, but pretty much all of them just reacted with a “yeah, okay” and didn’t need an explanation; I honestly wasn’t sure what to do afterwards because I didn’t picture the conversation going that way. None of it was negative, just unexpected.
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They are all very open and understanding kind of a pre requisite to live here, as for being kicked out I am anything but worried as I control the house and all it’s finances. My biggest reason for divulging this is that I didn’t want anyone to happen across me in a regressed state and be confused or worse make snide comments, I am easily stressed have been my entire life, but this by far was the most stressful experience I have ever had, even more so than when I came out as transgender the only difference is when I came out as transgender I had planned and planned for the perfect moment to come out and was already prepared to lose friends and family over it , which I did. I am still shaking some but most has passed it stressed me to the point I peed myself but I suppose accidents happen and now I need a change 
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I was super nervous to tell my two roommates, but they both took it very well. They both thought it was adorable and encouraged me to explore it and feel comfortable with myself. The diapers were a little weird at first for all of us, but with exposure we’ve all gotten more comfortable. I’m little usually around bedtime and maybe twice a week during the day, so I still have a lot of my adult side around. Because of my job I was also very worried that people were going to find out and I would loose my job and any future jobs too. This was probably exaggerated thinking, but I still worry about it. It’s scary telling people something private and ‘taboo’ that they could take the wrong way, but I’m glad we both found people who accepts us for who we are. ^.^
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It was such a terrifying thing given I was also partially regressed at the time, I truly have found out just how good of friends they are too. 1 of my roommates was pretty much hey it is what it is and your secret stays here, the other is like you do what makes you feel happy and complimented me on how cute I looked she has also offered to change me if I so desire, I got worked up over it because my close friends I’m afraid to loose I don’t really keep a lot of close friends been hurt to much, to add insult to injury I get stressed out very very easy in social situations causes some bad panic attacks. Fast forward to today me and my 21 yo daughter had the conversation and her first comment was .. are you an abdl? So you know that conversation went rather well
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I swear sometimes I think my daughter knows more about me than I do
I’ve wondered the same thing about my daughter too. We all need someone who we can not only talk to, but share those things which are important to us and tend to define us.
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My daughter means the world to me, she is more than accepting of me and everything about me, she never ceases to amaze me and think I get to go see her in a couple months. I’m so excited
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I know how you feel. My daughter has come across the country to stay with me for a week each year after my wife died. She comes on the anniversary of her death and so we deal with it together. We go out to a restaurant every night, see a movie and put some flowers on my wife’s grave. I’m hoping she’ll be able to come out this coming October because the Covid virus will probably still be with us.
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This COVID mess ughhh… I am a very vulnerable person to catch it right now … as I’m fighting off a Pulmonary MAC infection.. I may be somewhat safe from it due to the antibiotics I take as some are used for covid treatment… I do hope she can make it to you October as it sounds like you have a good working relationship with her