I don’t know I why but when I wear my travel pull-ups which are just as absorbent and useful for my incontinent needs, I always feel awkward so I wonder if its better to wear my diapers or pull-ups when out and about. I love my diapers but when I wear them its obvious that i’m wearing a diaper my pull-ups are to be more discreet so IDK why I feel like this.
my big question is do any of you feel this way also?
I think a general rule to follow, would be to use only as much protection as necessary to get you by while you are in an environment that may be sensitive. For example: You are on a visit to a cousin’s place, and that cousin may consider a person who wears protection as weak, or possibly some sort of deviant. Those are cases where you want to be as discrete as possible, even if you may have a doctor’s prescription. Standard jockey shorts, and any form of pad would be best along with an extremely keen awareness of fluid intake, and restroom mapping.
If you are staying the night with an unsympathetic group or individual, do not drink any fluids for at least two hours before turning in, and avoid anything that may have diuretic properties. This is where the pull-on would come in handy. The goal is to take absolutely no chances. You have to put their needs and desires before yours. During the day, a Huggies Size Six overnight inserted in a Fruit of the Loom brief will hold a good 5 ounces of fluid if an unexpected urge hits while on the way to a facility. Keep one in your pocket for a quick swap, and others will be totally unaware of the situation. A toddler disposable is extremely discrete. You can consider it as stealth protection in tough situations.
This reality that we live in, one in which manliness still rules, continues to prevail. One must improvise accordingly, and locate the right tool for the job at hand. If you are in a social environment where nobody pays any particular attention and you have plenty of opportunities for privacy, than the diapers with tabs make the most sense for comfort and absorbency.
When got to the point of needing to wear diapers I stopped hiding the fact I was wearing diapers and you know what? As long as your not leaking pee or smelling of poop no one cares.
Only you will know when it’s best for you to wear a diaper instead of a pull up.
so you didn’t find needing to wear them embarrassing? because all my life I’ve worn them I was told that I had to hide it and so I’ve always been a bit self-conscious about it but thankfully I don’t have to go out often
I have needed “protection” for over 30 years. As my symptoms worsened over the years the level of protection has increased from pads to pull-ups to diapers. You can wear what you need and still be discreet. For example, when I spend time with the grandchildren I wear a onesie to make sure my diaper doesn’t peek out. Plus, as much as I like all the fun prints available these days, I only wear plan white diapers when I’m out for extended periods which may require a change.
I also think worrying about whether people will notice is more of a “tell” than just being well protected and enjoying your time around people.
In my experience we look at Ourselves a lot more closely than anyone else will
Its easy to think “this diaper is so thick and so loud, everyone is gonna look and know I’m wearing a Diaper, or they will hear it and know its me”
But that’s not true at all in reality, the majority of people are not on Diaper Patrol, they are too busy with their own lives to notice and they dont care anyways.
Anyone that does theoretically care that much about a strangers choice of underwear has a much bigger problem than any of us; especially if you are IC, just carry on like normal and dont worry about strangers that don’t care and probably wont even notice it anyways.
A thick Diaper that has done it’s just is way less noticeable than a big wet spot.
All you gotta do is make it not very obvious to the average person and you will be fine.
Usually wearing underneath normal clothes is good enough, but you could also get a plain looking OneSie and use that in place of a T Shirt and it would just look like a tucked in T-Shirt; then nobody would know for sure
There are pros and cons to both nappies and pull ups.
Pull ups are discrete, great for mild to moderate incontinence and are easy to take off. The biggest problem with them is if you do have to change one you need to strip from the waist down to put a fresh one on.
Nappies, Great for all types of incontinence, come in a range of types to suit individual needs, easy to remove and to put a clean one on.
Yes some can be a little bulky, which is why I wear jogging bottoms.
If you don’t want to wear a full disposable have you thought about one of the belted ones? They are more discrete than a standard nappy and are easier to change than both a pull up and a full disposable.
UK link - https://www.allaboutincontinence.co.uk/adult-incontinence/belted-pads
No I don’t find it embarrassing to wear diapers, I’m the one who put myself into diapers as an adult, I diaper trained myself to the point of no control and I have always enjoyed wearing wetting and messing my diapers.
Myself and the 2 Little Ones I look after goes everywhere fully diapered. No one actually notices or cares.
If you only need pull-ups, it would save some money if you used them in public … I personally need heavy protection due to bladder voiding and constant urine leaking .
I agree with the above posters that say we tend to look more at ourselves then what other people really see, one of the things I do when wearing diapers outside of the house is to wear a onesie with them, this helps me prob more in a phycological level, but it also helps keep things covered if your bending down, and reduces crinkles by keeping the diaper tighter to your body.
I’ve worn most of my life and even in the Children’s home when i knew that other children were wearing cloth and waterproofs, unless you caught them at bathtime as they were either taking off or putting on a nappy or happened to see them in their pyjamas you had no idea they or i were wearing. And at 64 it’s the same, unless they are daft enough to leave their nappies on display (and some do it for the humiliation it may bring), or wear very tight clothing over a large nappy you just can’t tell without actually physically checking and I wouldn’t advise going around grabbing the bums of ladies or men, you just might get more than you bargained for (unless your name is Trump and then it’s perfectly ok to grope women :mad:).
thanks guys for taking the time out of your day to answer the thread 