Curious if anyone has shy bladder where they cannot easily, or at all, pee in a public washroom?
If the room is empty or I’m in a stall it’s fine but more often then others if there are others in the room or beside me I have a hard time going, many times I give up. One time at a concert it was shoulder to shoulder urinals and I had to try 5 different times before I could go.
Is this an acceptable reason for an adult to use a diaper? Diaper Lover aside I am much happier to wear a diaper rather than struggle.
I do or at least I did. I’ve found that the older I get, the easier it has become to pee in a public restroom. I hate having to give urine samples at a doctor’s office because I’m never sure if things are going to happen. But the older I get, the easier it has become…sigh.
I didn’t use to have a problem until I went to college which was a music conservatory. The first time I used the urinal in the dorm the guy standing next to me started commenting on my penis. It freaked me out. Several weeks later there was written in black magic marker in the restroom, I Want to Fuck dogboy except that it was my real name of course. I had trouble peeing in public places ever since.
As for shy bladder only when I’ve been picked for a “random” drug test at work. I’m practically bursting before I can go. As for just regular public places I’m usually fine.
A common thread here ten plus years back, I feel it is a issue common to DLism. I developed paruresis at puberty possibly due to my father’s scolding of me for peeing in the same toilet at the sale time with two friends or shame of being a masturbateor not knowing everyone does it.
If you have trouble using a urinal next to somebody, generally that means you’re going to have even more trouble using a diaper next to somebody. That’s really interesting if that’s not the case for you.
I’ve had mild cases of shy bladder, especially when wearing diapers even if alone. However, I’ve found that over my years of diaper wearing, the mental training to go in a diaper in different positions applies just as much to standing in front of a urinal next to a bunch of other people.
I have a suggestion for anyone with a shy bladder. Enlist in the military. By the time you get out of basic training you will have overcome having a shy bladder because there is no privacy involved. Well, there wasn’t in 1966 when I was in boot camp. If you couldn’t pee with a crowd watching, you’d have been in major trouble because the lines at the urinals in the barracks was long first thing in the morning. :ROFLMAO: IIRC, we had about 10 urinals for 80 men but could only use 4 of them. That way we only needed to clean 4 for the daily inspections. That’s 20 men/urinal and you didn’t want to be last in line. :(y):
I was never a fan of those crowded urinal restrooms..I would usually use the stall in a crowded bathroom. I didnt like the notion of a whole bunch of guys waiting behind me to finish in a hurry, especially at a sports arena or concert venue.
I did and still do. It has relaxed since my teenage years (long story short: I couldn’t even pee in my own home). I believe it is totally acceptable and has actually helped me to be a little more active and outgoing.
In the fifth grade they began busing middle class kids into the poor neighborhood schools. And the rumor was that we would get beat up if we went into the boys bathroom; so I developed a healthy fear of public restrooms. Over time that extended to include anyone “waiting” on me . So, yeah for me it is pretty strong.
my whole life i could pee anywhere anytime, no issues at all I can pee in my diaper in a crowded room or i can whip it out and pee on the side of the road with cars streaming by, or a rest room full of people.. no issues at all.
I’ve always had trouble with going with other people around. I need the feeling of being alone to be able to pee. Whether it’s in public or in my diaper. I hate drug tests because I always have a hard time doing them, even if I’m alone because of the pressure put on me.
When I do make it to the restroom and not leak into my diaper; I gush like Niagara Falls. I’m not shy about it either. When I have to go, well, let the floodgates open.
I had a terribly shy bladder for many years, and diapers have actually helped solve the problem, but not in the way you’d expect. It’s a matter of retraining your brain that it doesn’t have to hold your bladder hostage in unfamiliar circumstances. After wearing diapers for weeks and finally getting to the point where I could begin to wet them (even under ideal circumstances)
So as time went on, having diapers gave me “opportunities” to practice wetting in less familiar situations. While wearing pants, while sitting, while standing in my driveway etc. It allowed me to gradually take back control over my bladder.
I used to not be able to use a urinal if I so much as heard people in the hallway. But it got to a point where I was able to use a urinal (with difficulty) despite there being someone at another one of the stalls. This was before I went to wearing 24/7 though, it’s hard to use a urinal when you’re wearing a diaper! But now I can wet my diaper in very public situations, like standing at the register as the checker rings up my groceries and is making smalltalk.
But now I can wet my diaper in very public situations, like standing at the register as the checker rings up my groceries and is making smalltalk.