As ABDLs one of the first things we do if we’re not incontinent is learn to soil (wet and mess) our Diapers. It takes practice because we are basically un-potty training ourselves since we learned at a young age when we needed to go to the bathroom and trained our bodies to hold it in until we got to the toilet. But of course as ABDLs we like to regress back to a time when we needed Diapers and didn’t know how to use the potty or do much of anything. That’s why we wear and use the Diapers.
Anyway my point is I’ve mastered wetting my Diaper while standing, and am getting better at wetting while sitting. But the one that I can’t do no matter how long/hard I try is wet while laying in bed. I would really love some advice on how you guys who are not incontinent managed to do it. Because unlike most people I would love the option of not having to get out of bed at night to pee and just wet my Diaper in bed (or in a crib someday) while sucking my paci just like a Baby!!!
I know many for many ABDLs it just comes naturally and they wake up in a wet Diaper so, that means they went even further and wet while asleep without even trying/realizing it. So, how did you guys get to that point? Right now I think I have a long way to go before I’m able to involuntarily wet my Diaper because first I have to learn how to wet while laying in bed. Any advice is greatly appreciated. Thanks, and as always…stay Diapered…and also wet TEE-HEE
I just try to imagine I’m standing at the toilet and this often helps or think of running water or the ocean. Also it helps if your more desperate so drink plenty before bed. When you are able to go, wee gradually as I find if you just let go my nappy leaks even if it’s a high capacity one and never have leaks when standing or sitting unless I haven’t changed for a while. It’s also worth getting some bed protection pads just incase your nappy does leak. Hope this helps and enjoy waking up to a moist nappy
I need some help with this myself. I find that all the nappies I’ve tried, even ones that brand themselves as ‘night time’ just start leaking as soon as I start to wee and I have to stop.
It’s annoying because when I was younger and wet the bed until I was about 13 I wore drynites and these worked just fine. They were drenched when I woke up but v very rarely did any get on the bed.
Having a diaper you can trust not to leak is big. And I’ve never found one I could truly trust while laying down >.>
I think I started by sitting on my knees and going while in bed, and over time got to where I could do it while sitting, and then sitting up a little less, then fully laying down.
the same was for me. does get better with consistency.
this is the position that I was able to do it,
laying on my back with legs bent and apart then I had to tell myself to go.
have also waterproof sheets on your bed,
it’s nice not having to get up, but I found that I still wack up. to go.
for sleeping through I have found getting my self really tired, having a bottle in bed helps, but I, not a bedwetter yet, through the day I just do it and it a lot easier. but at night although I have a diaper on it just on the odd occasion my sheet need washing.
Ive been wearing diapers on an off for 5 years now and sometimes struggle to pee while lying down if my bladder is full
The most important thing is a diaper you can trust to not leak even when flooding. ive tried many brands of diapers and theres only 2 i can completely trust (Forsite AM PM and Rearz Barnyards)
If i find it hard to pee i just take a deep breath hold it and think about peeing which works everytime. To make peeing while lying down or sitting way easier in the future is to not stop the flow once its begun and keep urethra open for aslong as possible (dont clench your butt)
Bonus tip: if you got a ding dong make sure its pointed down all the way after you get in bed or else you are gonna have a bad time
Like everybody say first protect your bed so you won’t be scared to spoiled your mattress I have a plastic sheet and reusable pad, second on the begging I would sit starting pee and lay down, i
When I just wake up sometimes I still have to push a little hard because our body is trained not to when sleeping and I think takes a minute for the body completely wake up, but if I really have to go comes easier, also sometimes in the morning when I woke up I would make a bottle with juice and because I needed to go and start drinking would come easily, nowadays that was the easier way for me to wet on my back and tummy so I can use better my diaper as girl it goes all to the back so I lay on my belly for better use and that is the way my diaper gets bulkier like a baby diaper, but I haven’t bee able to achieve wet sleeping only on time that I had a higher dose of my sleeping meds, but I am still trying
Ive found laying down to be a comfortable position to wet in because it doesn't put any pressure that might restrict your pee to come out. If Im sitting in a certain position , I sometimes can feel restrictive pressure and might have to make conscious move to be able to let it come out. Maybe a guy thing and prostrates?
I suppose it is a mental thing that passes in time. I try to just not think about it and it comes out .
I’ve been wetting since a very young age so it’s pretty easy. I can say that I have had sometimes had difficulty. Here’s how I would do it. Drink up! Lots of water 3 or 4 glasses and if you drink coffee drink a cup of that to think will make the urge to pee stronger. Coffee makes you pee. Have a diaper on. Lay down on your bed on your back make sure your little guy is pointed towards your feet. Have extra protection on your bed if it makes you feel better. When the urge to pee is strong close your eyes and focus all your attention on letting go. From my own experience it might take a minute or two. Or maybe longer. But dont get up. Just wait focus on peeing and even releasing in your diaper.
Trust is key. You have to trust your diaper, you have to trust your situation too. By that i mean you have to trust that if you do leak that you won’t have issues washing the sheets, and trust that your mattress cover is going to protect the mattress from the leak. If any of these are missing your body will make it hard to let go.
Now if you have all that trust issues out of the way… you now need to relax, with each exhale feel yourself releasing your bladder just a little more, feel the release of the urine, it’s going to happen, just relax… then boom
NOW, don’t go flooding or pushing to get the urine out, as that is counterproductive. Incontinent people for the most part do not flood, they leak… so pee, pause, pee, pause. Even if the pause isn’t a full on stopping. This gives the diaper the chance to soak up what you’ve done
I also have the leaking problem. It’s very frustrating. I don’t want to sleep in plastic pants. I am now using an absorbent mattress pad. I still wake up lying on a wet spot but my mattress is safe.
People have a hard time, because like you, they try to wet or mess their diaper. All you need to do is relax your muscles and stop holding. Everything will just come out if you stop holding.
I really wish I could, but because I have detrusor sphincter dyssynergia , even with the piece cut out of it, the rest still clenches up really really hard. So I wake up like 5 times a night with a painful urge, and unable to let go because the place where the surgeon cut is the opposite side (a 12 o’clock sphincterotomy). For obvious reasons he won’t do the other side, which I understand, but it still bums me my sleep is suffering from it.
I don’t know if sleeping on my tummy is part of the cause of not wetting in my sleep or not being able to let go while lying down but even when on my back it’s not always possible unless I do a lot of pelvic muscle relaxation breathing exercises.
I tried sleep hypnosis but i can’t sleep with subliminal background noises and sleep earpods in.
I usually use the “relaxed Frog”, you know both legs angled laying on the back, I found at first it also helps to lift my back up a little using a pillow or my elbows and pushing a little also helps, you know, hold breath push, hold breath push.
Important! Don’t go full weeeee, try to pace it a little, the absorbers need a few seconds, if you flood it completely in 2 seconds you’ll laying in a puddle afterwards.
At first it was hard, but now it became fairly easy.
Wetting while laying on your tummy on the other hand can be really difficult in my opinion and also very risky as most diapers I tried don’t hold much in the upper front and could result in leaking quite quick.
Regarding diapers, I would say all of the ABU Brands usually hold up well, haven’t tried crinklz in ages as I had frequent issues with the tapes, but aside from that they worked fine for me before I started having problems with the tapes.
Good luck with your excersies :3
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Would like to sleep with my legs angled that way, but that doesn’t quite work for me, I only managed it once…I was super exhausted and drank half a liter of ice tea before going to bed, when I woke up at night I was already in the middle of wetting myself, it felt strange, it was nice and scary at the same time (“Have I gone too far!?”).
Well, i just got off the phone with my doctor and he agreed to proceed with another surgery. Given the circumstances I’m finally authorized to get a wider cut so I leak at night because I can’t keep up thus sleep schedule of waking up 5times
All IS in your mind set a matress cover put a good diaper on (dont know if you Can put marks but crinklz of rearz and megamax) and have confidence in your diaper . Accept the fact that the diaper dont hold it all when you ll be ready To have leaks it will become easier each day. Accept that sometimes your body does not want diapers. Have a break and put thèm only when desired. It will become easy with Time good Luck cause its wonderfull To pee laying down. I try To pee sleepi g for now i just cant i wake Always let go and sleep again
