been with my boyfriend for a while now hes aware of my abdl stuff and that i wear for bed near every night for medical issues, hes never made me feel weird about it. and even make little jokes about it with me that make me feel understood and loved, we have done some diaper stuff during sex i guess is the best way to put it only a hand full of times but thats more on me then it is on him as I don’t involve them in the bedroom out of fear of turning him off or becoming annoying. however my non sexual “little side” would love for him to tape me up in one for the night powder me and cuddle with me before bed time but im horrified to ask STILL even though hes fine with it. its just we both have a pretty natural goofy nature so im a little worried we would both laugh while he tried to diaper me…im not sure if id want him to change me after the diapers been used as thats a whole different level that i don’t think im exactly ready for myself. but having him powder me diaper me up and hold me close with some nicely timed pats on my diapered butt sounds like the most relaxing thing i could imagine. i was going to see if he would on the cruise to spain i posted about in a past post but that has been canceled due to this pandemic. idk, i just really love this goof and feel so good around him i know he would not care as well so im not sure why i have this wall with my little side, i call him daddy fairly often and hes fine with that he even calls me his boy at times so why tf am i so scared. but then i think id also like to diaper him…witch is a whole different thing all together. ugh. any suggestion on how not to be so scared of opening up about my wants.
First off, beside the medical needs, this is exactly where I I would like to be at with my hubby as well. The hubby is still coming to grips with things so I have not even begun to consider talking to him about going further yet. It sounds likely that you and your boyfriend are further along and he is very open to you being who you are. In a lot of ways this is just like coming out. The only difference is he already accepts you just the way you are. Take a deep breath and hold on to a plushie or his hand if you need to and be open with him. Listen to what he has to say as well and it should work out just fine for you. You are already past the scary stuff now it is just working out the details.
I don’t know if there’s an easy way to go about it. Sometimes, you just have to go for it. Yes, it will be scary — but if he agrees to taping you up, the adrenaline rush is going to be amazing.
Your boyfriend seems very accepting — I wouldn’t expect him to flat-out reject you. If he seems apprehensive about the idea, reassure him that he doesn’t have to do something he’s not comfortable doing, but let him know that it would mean a lot to you if he diapered you. Maybe he’ll come around to it one day. Of course, this is the worst-case scenario — more than likely, he’ll be okay with you asking (but you already know that 
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